Weekend Recap: Date Night Revamped and Food, Glorious Food

Hello everyone and happy Monday!!  I hope you're having a great day wherever you are.  I'm determined this week is going to be amazing just because I'm claiming it as such.

Monday will be awesome.  This week will be awesome.  Claiming it!

Date Night!!

Oh my goodness! I’m so excited. I mean it. I’m adolescent preteen excited lol. Tonight, my husband and I are going on a date!
 
So, you may remember that S. and I found that we were having a lot of trouble communicating. Everything seemed to be about #ttc and then being intimate (not intercourse, but intimacy) just wasn’t happening. Holding hands, compliments, flirty looks, were all out the door. We were, quite honestly, in a not so great place. Frankly, it was a horrible place. While all marriages have their moments, it seemed like the frustration of not being able to conceive was weighing heavy on S. It isn’t lost on him (nor I) that sperm counts and morphology can have a pretty big impact on the male psyche especially when they aren’t doing what they are supposed to. I’ve never once cast blame or treated him harshly because of it. But I know it has to hurt his pride when he is the only married one in the family who hasn’t conceived a biological offspring. Add to that the confession of wishing to be able to increase the family by at least two and you know he is a bit distracted by this journey.

That’s why I’m so excited about this evening. Tonight, S. has booked a couples’ Swedish massage with aromatherapy followed by dinner for date night. We haven’t had a couple’s massage since April of last year. It was such an enjoyable experience and very relaxing. I hope this one will bring the same experiences. 
 
Have a wonderful evening and we’ll check in with you soon!
-K

Excited about Cramps?!


Yep!  You read that right.  I never thought I'd be writing that lol.  But this infertility journey has me doing all kinds of things.  Usually cramps for me mean Aunt Flo is headed to town.  Usually I do an internal pout and hope beyond hope that she isn't.  This time, I'm thrilled.


This time, it means we are rapidly approaching the next phase of our journey.  This time, we do things a little bit different.  In a few days, I start...birth control...


So, it may not have come as a surprise to you, but it certainly was to me to find out the first step in this IVF process was going on birth control.  Fortunately we have an awesome nurse and a great RE and her staff to explain things for us.  According to them and their site, I take birth control pills because it will decrease the chances of creating cysts that could interfere with the cycle start.  It also allows our RE to control the timing of the cycle.  That's actually a good thing for me because I have been known to have a few cysts just hanging out around my ovaries from time to time.  I don't want anything to stop us from moving forward.

Oh! Another benefit is the medication is to put my follicles on one accord.  Everybody will be on the same stage ready to be retrieved on a date our doctor and we choose.  No overachievers here lol.  I need everyone to cooperate.

I called my nurse today when I started cramping and told her I was a bit nervous that I would start early.  I wanted to know what to do.  She was great and calmed my fears.  I would just call her when I started and come in for my CD3 blood work and ultrasound.  (Ugh...anyone remember how much I dislike the trans-vaginal ultrasound when on my period).  I wait for a call from her confirming the results are what they want to see and then I start the pills that evening.

Then, there is a HOST of other stuff to get taken care of, but I'm ready.  I'm so very ready!  Keep us in your prayers everyone.

Have a great day!

-K

22K reasons...and another waiting game

I meant to share this post sooner, but got so busy I didn’t get a chance. Hope you enjoy the laughter. I sure did!...

My husband is hilarious. I mean it. He is absolutely hilarious. S. and I were lying on the bed talking about upcoming financials for this ICSI. We know the base cost minus meds is $22K. We were discussing how we would pay for that and were reviewing the Fertility Friend loan information.

I happened to mention that this week (now last week) is my fertile week. I’d temped starting the week after menses to see if I could detect ovulation surge. We’d already baby danced, but I purposely didn’t mention that it was my fertile week because I wanted to be about intimacy and not fertility.

Ya’ll, I kid you not. My husband in his hilarity said, “wait, you’re fertile now! Like, right now?!” I responded I very well could be with all the signs and we've already made love once this week. To which he responded….”Oh, we have to get this done right now. We have 22 THOUSAND REASONS why we need to conceive this month!” 

 LOL. Then he proceeded to strip. Lol. Can I tell you how hilarious this man is and how silly?

I love my husband lol.

Fast forward to today (8/23) and my husband and I are still waiting for the financial rep to call us with information about the true costs of ICSI.  I'm beginning to get a bit frustrated because the longer we are in limbo, the shorter time for us to get stuff approved and set into place to begin.

My cycle should start about 3 September.  I will then start birth control and bloodwork/ultrasound visits.  But the 3rd isn't really that far away, so we really need an answer and soon.  I'm nervous.
Admittedly so.  

Today S. and  I went to a fitness assessment.  S. is in the gym every day.  It's a destressor for him.  I honestly loathe going to the gym.  I love the feeling I get after I complete my workout, but man do I lack the motivation to get there (just being honest).  Anyway, I know that I need to get into a gym for health reasons and not weight.

Yes, it would be great to have arms like Angela Bassett and a stop traffic figure like my girls Jennifer Hudson and Jill Scott, but I've neither the time nor the money.  So, I just want to tone some things up. I want to lose a few as well, but I know that pregnancy will definitely put that on hold lol (and I don't mind at all).  So, I asked the assessor/trainer what happens during pregnancy.  Her response was they adjust lol.  She has no idea.  I told my husband that I would listen to what our doctor says when the time comes.  I know there will be days of bed rest (like after the retrieval and transfer) and times where I myself will be extra cautious or just plain sore.  So it may take a while, but I'm all about it.

All of that being said, S. and I still need an answer for our fertility finance question.

And when we know.  So too will you!

-K