Me Time! Oh How I have missed you!!

So, at 6PM, I heard the sound of the garage door closing.  I was alone.  My husband, son, and daughter had just gone to a high school football game.  I had that moment where I wondered if I should have went too.  I thought part of me was going to regret that I didn't go, but the other part of me--the tired part, the exhausted part, was just so thankful that FatherWinter was fine with taking Honeybee as well.  Truthfully, I had not thought of him taking her, but not complaining that he had.

It was Superbug's first high school football game and the guys were sure to have a great bonding experience.  As they walked out the door, garage door descending, I debated about what I should do next.  Should I see a movie?  War Room was released and I really wanted to see it, but that was a movie I think I'd like to see with FatherWinter.  With a little work, I might be able to convince him to see it with me.  I thought about going out to grabsome Panda Express and some red velvet cupcakes from my favorite cupcakery.  But, and isn't this horrid, I didn't want to drive.  Truth be told, I just wanted to chill. And that's just what I did.

I ordered my favorite pizza in the world that I never get because FatherWinter hates the brand. I got my special garlic cheese sauce.  I grabbed my cheese sticks.  I had it delivered, which is a no no, but I was exhausted.  The delivery guy delivered it and we had a wonderful albeit conversation about faith. Then, after eating to my heart's content and cleaning my mess, I went upstairs, popped on the television, and watched nonsense until I fell asleep.  It was great.

The family came home about 11PM.  I didn't move even as they settled into their respective areas.  I simply rolled over, adjusted the pillows, and fell asleep.

I don't get me time often.  But when I do, it's more than enjoyable to me.



Time is Relative

It’s amazing to me how fast time can seem to glow and at the same time crawl to a snail’s pace. I’m learning as the month slowly progresses to September that time is going to do what time does—continue at its own pace.  

Finalization Progress.  A couple of days ago, I contacted Mrs. Care to see how things were progressing with Honeybee’s finalization.  We’d heard nothing since our lawyer had sent in the paperwork on my birthday.  I wanted to know if she had heard anything before I contacted our lawyer.  [And] She had.  There is still a delay occurring in the court system where Honeybee’s finalization will occur.  Sigh.  The court system only just received her court case files from her other hearings last week.  That information has to be processed and then the paperwork which was sent in this time.  BUT, that processing cannot occur until the cases and casework that was submitted in earlier cases (before Honeybee’s) is processed.  Where we’d once been told we could expect to receive finalization notice before Labor Day now seems to be before the end of September.  Insert HUGE sigh here.  I got off the phone feeling a bit disappointed.  While nothing changes here because our Honeybee is still with us, happy, and growing, she is still not legally our daughter.  And it still isn’t completely done when finalization occurs.  We still have to get new birth certificates and social security cards.  It is my sincere hope that FatherWinter and I can take the day off work and go down to Vital Records together once we have the finalization notice.  We can just go to Vital Records and get the birth certificate and head to the Social Security office to get her new card.  Hopefully, that will be sooner than later.

Daycare.  Yesterday, I went to pick Honeybee up from daycare.  As NanaWinter still watches her on the latter part of the week, the staff knew yesterday would be her last day there for the week.  What I wasn’t prepared for was the information that it would also be her last day in the baby care room.  Oh my goodness!!! Can I tell you how emotional I felt myself getting?!  Next week, my Honeybee will be going to the big girl class.  She’ll sit in big girl chairs in big girl tables.  She’ll learn songs and colors and new experiences.  She’ll make friends and have a great time.  At least that is my hope.  But isn’t it funny how time can flow so slow in one scenario and flow so quickly in another?  I kid you know it seems like I was just dropping Honeybee off at daycare for the first time and getting emotional over that.  Now, there’s a milestone here and I’m amazed by it.

Superbug.  So I spent part of yesterday updating our family’s Google calendar with all of the appropriate information for Superbug.  His county has come out with the school calendars and there are abbreviated days, holidays, parent days, and activities that must be locked in before they catch us unaware.  This year opens new doors for Superbug.  He is a chess whiz.  He gets to join the chess club at school and he really wants to.  There is an option for school chorus this year.  He wanted to do it last year, but the major performance was going to be the week we were out of town and I didn’t want him to be disappointed that we couldn’t come.  The option exists this year.  There are also a few other things that he gets to do that he couldn’t do last year.  It’s such a blessing to see the little man that he is becoming. He has his own interests now and I hope that he will be allowed to pursue them.  I loved that my great-grandmother was such a loving individual, but she was very sheltering.  A lot of things I wanted to do, I couldn’t and I always felt bad about that.  I plan to continue to take her example of being a loving and wonderful mother figure and apply it, but also allow Superbug an opportunity to spread his wings a bit more and become his own little person. 


Announcements.  Well, the last four weeks have garnered three weeks of pregnancy notifications.  There is something in the water for sure.  Unfortunately, it hasn’t decided to swim around my way lol.  I’m super excited for the new expecting mommies.  I wish them all the joy in the world.  Babies are truly a joy.  I'm so happy those I love get to experience the same.  




Weekend Recap: Superbug Returns and Yummy Meals

Superbug is back!!
Superbug has returned!!  Woohoo!  It's been more than a little interesting having both Superbug and I away from home at the same time, but in different locations.  Technology is certainly a great tool as I was able to FaceTime with FatherWinter and Honeybee every night.  Superbug has a traditional cell phone and not a smart phone, so I was only able to call him nightly.  I loved hearing his voice, but certainly missed him.

He had a great time with his birth father as always and came back with all of his school supplies and a few new outfits.  That was certainly awesome!  I'm very thankful that Superbug has a great relationship with FatherPharoah.  They always make some pretty cool memories when they are together.  Plus it's a great boon that everyone gets along and genuinely enjoy each other's company.  I know that my family isn't the only one that operates well as a blended family, but I am told it's an exception and not a rule. (Honeybee's Guardian Ad Litem enlightened me).

Anywho, I picked him up the day after my arrival from the airport, got back through the summer traffic congestion, and quickly changed clothes to take the family to a rather nice restaurant to celebrate my in-laws 46th wedding anniversary.

I have to tell you that I really enjoyed this place.  They make all of their food from scratch using locally available produce and meats.  Everything is made in house including the bread and pastas.  I loved everything.  I had my crab cakes (I know.  I know, but I love crab cakes).  They were very delicious, but I think the ones in SC had them beat.  But that doesn't take away anything from them because the crab cakes were amazing here too.  Now, hands down the smashed potatoes I had at this local restaurant were SO good.  They tasted like my great-grandmothers.  They were real potatoes and were seasoned so well.  Loved them.

Superbug wolfed down his breaded chicken tenders (which he claimed were awesome with a big thumbs up).  FatherWinter had his ribs and devoured them.  It was a great meal and a wonderful time to spend with the in laws.

I hope I'm blessed to see 46 years in marriage.  It would be more than wonderful to do so.   We'll see what God has in store!

Welcome back to my Superbug!!!

-WinterMommy

Charleston, SC


While on a business trip to Charleston, SC, I decided to take some of my down time to visit a few sites in the city.  I've never been there before, but have always wanted to partly because of the deep historical and architectural significance.

The city didn't hesitate to share its history with me.


The city's children could run up and through this fountain.  On a humid day, it hit the spot

I  took a walk near the Charleston Waterfront Park and just enjoyed the beautiful fountain, the cool breeze, and the beautiful architecture that was constantly surrounding me.  My colleague accompanied me and I was very fortunate that she also loves and appreciates such things.  She's traveled extensively in Europe and saw a lot of European inspiration in the buildings.  She thought about how the colonists settled in the area and saw the connection immediately.

Most of the older or restored buildings had markers that designated their year and any awards they won for the resoration

The Art Institute has a campus in Charleston.  Some of its students went across the street to sketch on the stairs.

We found this jewel in a hotel courtyard.  If you look carefully, you'll see the bottom fountain bowl is actually multi-colored.
There was so much for our eyes to feast on it that it would have almost been easy to forget to feed our bellies.  Almost...


We stopped at a local restaurant called Charleston Crab House.  Can I tell you how much I loved these crab cakes?!  Oh my goodness!  They were so yummy I ended up writing a review on them for Tripadvisor.  The service was great.  The food was spectacular and it was visited again the next day!!

It made waking up every morning to prep for meetings a lot less painful.  Though I have to admit that my meetings weren't half bad.  New experiences will never be taken for granted.

Meeting bound....
In the afternoons, I was able to return to the our hotel and enjoy some quiet time.  I took advantage of room service only once.    I wasn't really that impressed....except for the cake.  The cake was amazing.



Not the Lobster Roll I was expecting, but I won't complain.

This Carrot Cake was pretty good though

All in all, it was a very productive trip.  I hope to return one day with FatherWinter and the kids.  It has a lot of wonderful attractions and things to keep everyone entertained.  Plus, it has tons of history and I love that.  Of course there is also tragedy here.

It was my sincere desire to visit Mother Emanuel AME Church to pay homage to the victims of the Charleston 9 Massacre.  Unfortunately, it rained a lot in Charleston and the area wasn't so easy to navigate for me in the rain.  The downtown streets flood quite a bit there.  I do plan on returning to pay my respects the next time I am down.

Hope you enjoyed the journey.
-WinterMommy