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Preggo #4 Update: Weekly Update 21 weeks

Hi everyone!  Thanks for checking in!  I am 21 weeks pregnant.  All well on the home front.  So the baby calendar over at Babycenter says baby is the size of a carrot. I am in my fourth month.

We haven't announced yet, so you probably won't read this update until after the actual announcement, but I still wanted to document all the same.  Here's hoping you enjoy the update.

5 Pregnancy and Labor Apps You Should Definitely Download

Social media etiquette

Hello everyone!

So, I've posted about this before.  Well, I've shared it on Instagram.  You all know how I feel about spilling the beans before family right? Well, it happened again and this time, I just HAD to share about it.

Literally, the day before yesterday, I saw yet another post on one of the pregnancy boards I follow of a tiny graphic reminding people not to share parent’s baby announcement news before the parents could do so themselves. I looked at it and thought that no one would really be that crass, but I was wrong. 

Last night, I logged on to FB to see that the parents, sister, and friend of one of my associates had just posted the news that the associate had given birth. They gave name and time of birth. I looked on her page and saw no mention from her at all. I suddenly felt annoyed for her.  I am not there so I don’t know the situation. Maybe she asked them to post. Maybe she gave them permission. But the only thing I could think was this beautiful mom and dad had just given birth to their first child and were basking in the glow of that child while simultaneously trying to recuperate and a great and personal moment was taken from them.

I would be furious. S. and I have tried to conceive this child for 4.5 years. Calendars, positions, blood work, needles, hormones, surgeries, retrievals, transfers, lab work, prayers. We did it all trying to get to this moment. I would be so hurt if I wasn’t even allowed the opportunity to share the moment with the world in a way and time I chose. S. probably won’t care, but I would love to have a mini collage. One of the new baby, one of each of the kids holding the baby, and then one of the entire family. Or not even. Just one of the baby. If my mother or sisters in love posted before I was ready, I’d be more than hurt. I’d be livid.

I wondered if this was just an isolated case. Sadly, it isn’t. Google it. You’ll see tons of posts where parents were hurt, angry, furious, heartbroken that someone had overshared. I would hate that. A while ago, I posted that S. and I were discussing not letting anyone know the baby was here until after we were back home. He has the large family. I have a pretty good size of extended family, several of whom are clamoring to see the newest blessing.

That’s just more than I want right now. I know people will be upset but I’d rather have the peace of mind of knowing that should I want to share, I can do so…on my own time. So, after deep discussion, S. and I have decided that we will keep the news of our little one's arrival private until we get home.  Because I know that my husband can be emotional (it's so amazing to see him tear up) and may change his mind about sharing, this following text message would be sent to our parents only. Siblings will be told later.

Good morning/afternoon/evening! We just wanted to let you know that Baby XXX has made his/her arrival at _______am/pm. Mom and baby are doing____________________. Right now, we are only telling immediate family so PLEASE do NOT post on ANY social media or share this text about the baby until we are ready to do so ourselves. It took us quite a bit of time to get to this moment and we would like to bask in it privately for a while. Also, Mom’s a little tired right now, so please give her a few hours before calling or making plans to visit.

We think this will work.  How about you?  Any one doing a delayed announcement for fear of family spilling the beans?

Second Trimester Favorites

Hi everyone!  I completely apologize for being behind on this post.  I know I promised it a couple of weeks ago, but I wanted to get input from others just in case I missed something.  So, because you reminded me in DMs and because I try to be transparent as I can be in these posts, here are my second trimester favorites.

1.  Preggie Pops. Oh my goodness! These were STILL required during second trimester and were a life saver!  I kept waiting for the “second trimester is awesome” energy that everyone speaks about (and I remembered from pregnancy number one), but it seemed to evade me for quite some time. I would still find myself getting nauseous especially if the weather was warm or if someone were brewing coffee around me. These little candies helped a LOT.

2.  Maternity Tanks from Target.  I popped quite a bit sooner than I did with pregnancy number one. By week 16, people were pretty much in the know. Suddenly, about the same time, my shirts became increasingly difficult to put on and remove. After one particularly hard battle with a church organization shirt that I love dearly, I begrudgingly admitted defeat. Target Cartwheel just so happened to have a 20% off maternity tanks on top of a clearance sale and I decided to see if I could find a couple of tanks to hold me over. I did and they were perfect! Comfortable, roomy, stretchy, and looked great with a cardigan. Woohoo!

3.  Maternity/Nursing Bras.  Oh my wow. I tried to avoid these. Don’t ask why. I just did. A coworker who’d recently given birth gave me several just to be nice and my goodness. I practically lived in them. The breasts didn’t hurt so much at the end of the day. I didn’t want to hit my husband when I hugged him in the evenings. And they were flattering.  The only thing I didn't like was that a great majority of them are thinner, so you could see your nips if you were wearing a thinner shirt.

4.  Baby Apps. While trying to conceive, my husband and I both downloaded the Glow app for conception. It kept up with fertility appointments, basal body temperatures, egg retrieval, egg transfer, etc. When we received a positive beta, I hesitated a bit before confirming the pregnancy and upgrading to Glow Nurture. I’m so glad I did update though. I am able to keep track of weight, appointments, symptoms, complaints, etc. It’s been very helpful.

Equally helpful has been Full Timer, which lets me count baby kicks and time Braxton Hicks contractions.  That came in handy a couple of times when I did too much and those Braxton Hicks actually had a bit of rhythm to them.

5.  Peacock Tumbler.  I love this thing. No, seriously.  I love it.  My niece gave it to me as a Mother's Day gift.  It comes with a straw and the cutest peacock design which is my thing because I LOVE peacocks.  Anyway, I fill this tumbler with water several times a day, drink my quota and then some, and keep coming back for more.  It actually motivates me subconsciously to stay hydrated. It's definitely coming with me to L&D on delivery day.

So there you have it.  These are my favorites for the second trimester.  Any definites on your list?  Anything you were surprised to see?

Baby shower surprise!

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

 In one of my previous posts, I’d shared how I was looking forward to seeing my family, but was disappointed because it didn’t look like we were going to have a shower for the baby. I reiterated that I wasn’t thinking about gifts, but thought it would be cool to celebrate this amazing blessing with family and I wondered if we would ever get a chance to celebrate our pregnancy in our #TTC world. Imagine my surprise when I popped into NJ with S. to visit my paternal family this weekend and found a beautiful surprise shower had been planned!

My awesome and amazing siblings were the planners. That’s three sisters and one brother. Their spouses, my in-loves, also helped as well as my bonus mother. I seriously had no idea. I had an inkling something was going on because Dad kept asking what time I was planning to come, but I was not expecting such a sweet surprise!


Since we won’t know what Baby will be until delivery day, the family with a neutral pastel theme. Light yellows, greens, pinks, blues. It was beautiful.


They decided to all wear a beautiful palette of yellows and that just made everything come together so well. In addition to a beautiful job inside and outside with d├ęcor, the food was very yummy. My dad is a guru on the grill. He woke up early and grilled ribs and hamburgers. My bonus mother made an amazing rice and shrimp dish and a macaroni salad. My sister made shrimp kabobs. She also made chicken. We had tons of beverages and snacks. It was just family and it was amazing.

My beautiful sister T, was the game hostess. We had to guess the flavor of the baby food. Oh my yuckiness, lol! It’s hard to imagine how much babies love this stuff. This was evident by our three year old who wanted to try and then proceeded to demolish the sample off my spoon! She loved it LOL. My sister in love ended up guessing correctly in round one (apples and pears) and my brother (her husband) guessed correctly in round two. This makes a lot of sense because my niece is almost two. They are familiar with the flavors lol.

The men disappeared and the ladies ended up opening gifts lol. It was the first time some of my brother in loves got to spend time with my husband and they were having a ball. We allowed them their fun and opened onesies and diapers, wipes, shirts, gift cards, and so much more. It was all appreciated so very much!

We gathered everyone in the kitchen and cut the very yummy, very tasty vanilla shortcake with banana cream. It was so good. My sister was a bit annoyed because she’d ordered strawberry and banana and only received the banana. I told her it was so good that I didn’t care and would never have known had not she mentioned it. Seriously, guys, it was delicious.

After the cakes, gift opening and seconds (or thirds), we sat around chitchatting for another couple of hours and then it was time to go. I seriously can’t say enough about how beautiful and thoughtful everything was. It was one of the best trips to visit my family ever! I can’t thank them enough for loving me and for celebrating our family addition.

Here are some additional pictures for you!

Birth Plan Discussions?

Hi everyone. Hope all is well in your worlds today. I was sitting at my desk recounting a conversation I had with S. yesterday along with some recent reading I’d done. There was a blog post I read entitled “Giving Birth is not a Party”. I read it and could relate to the author’s frustration with the way some people take the experience of birth as a right to be present. I get it. It’s exciting. It’s new life for goodness sakes! BUT, it’s not for everyone. Most of you know how fortunate I was in my first pregnancy. I was a single mom doing it solo. My mother wouldn’t be in attendance at the birth and I was bummed about being there by myself. Then my sister squad came through after I called them and told them my water had broken. By the end of my 11 hours and 55 minutes of labor, there were six beautiful woman in that room welcoming the birth of my son. It was powerful. It was beautiful. It was soul stirring. It was something that will never be duplicated. Nor should it. This time, I want things different…and they already are.

I am married now to a man whom I love with all of me—even when he drives me bonkers lol. This is our first biological child together. We’ve been blessed to experience the joys of newborn raising together (our daughter) and the joys of raising a preschooler to soon-to-be middle schooler (our son-wow), but pregnancy and delivery have never been experienced together. I thought about how big our families are and how many people could easily say they were on their way and, quite frankly, I don’t want that. It seems to take away from things.  That’s what I told S.

I asked if he would have any objections to it being just the two of us in the delivery room. I know my husband has tons of brothers, a sister, sister in laws, and that together we have so many nieces, nephews, etc. I love spending time with them and I love the energy they bring to any event.  However, I don't think I want all that energy when we are laboring.  I would like it to be just he and I laboring together.  This is our one team, one flesh, one effort moment.  I don’t want  have to worry about people seeing my nether regions or talking when I want complete silence. I just want it to be he and I. At least, that’s what I think I want.

S. didn't seem to have a problem with this at all and joked that maybe we should let everyone know after the baby was born and at home.  I actually like the sound of that, but also know that I wouldn't mind a couple of friends or family members in the downtime where he has to go home.  My mother won't be down until several weeks later. I suspect I'll be there for a couple of nights minimum.  S. will be going back and forth with the babies and I wouldn't mind someone sitting with me for a little while--maybe.

I think most will be okay with any decision to wait until we are home since their travel distance is an hour minimum.  I'd prefer they wait until the baby is about a week old before coming over.  I want the family to have time to be home and enjoy meeting and loving the baby.

The only exception to the wait until we get home rule will have to be my babies.  I would like our son and daughter to meet the baby in the hospital.  I think it will be a nice time for them spend some time together, take pictures, and return home knowing we'll see them the next day.  This will be especially important for our oldest.  He is very protective of me.  I know he will be worried if he doesn't see me and will want to know that I am okay.

I was putting all of this off since we have a couple of months before things are solid, but then two of my fellow pregnant mothers delivered early.  My former colleague and my cousin.  The colleague went three months early.  The cousin went three weeks early.  My office has also recently started to ask when I plan to take maternity leave, so I suppose I have to start thinking about this stuff now.
Any thoughts?  What did you do? What are you doing? Who will be in L&D with you if you are doing a hospital birth? Who will be with you if it’s a home birth?  When are you starting maternity leave?


First Trimester Favorites

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Hi everyone!  I was recently asked about my favorite first and second trimester favorites since we are starting to approach trimester three.  I was eager to share my top four and decided to make a post out of it as well.  I hope these help you as much as they did me.  I was very thankful for them.  I'll share my second trimester favorites soon.  In the mean time, feel free to comment on your favorites as well. 

1. Preggie Pop Drops. You know, I never really had morning sickness with my son. I would feel an occasional nauseous rise, but nothing substantial. Oh my goodness, this pregnancy was so different. I can’t exactly recall which week, but I know it’s listed in the blog, that I started being fit with overwhelming nausea, but I did and it was no joke. Someone suggested preggie pops and I very skeptically tried them. (insert angelic melody of angel chorus). They were an immediate help. They are basically hard candies, but something about them stops the nausea and lets you focus on other things for an hour or so instead of concentrating on not getting sick.

2. The Pregnancy Bible. The title is a misnomer, but it’s an excellent book that I have enjoyed sharing with friends and family alike. I loved it when I was carrying my first and it has been a welcomed reference in this pregnancy as well.  I'm told there is an updated version now.  I didn't purchase this one, but I certainly am considering it!


3. Gummy Prenatals. These are the ONLY prenatal vitamins I was able to take without them visiting me soon thereafter. They taste great and provide almost all of the nutrition my little one needs. The exception is iron which I supplement through food or a small pill later in the day.

4. Seagram’s Ginger Ale. When all else failed, this ginger ale helped to keep my stomach settled and my body functioning. The funny this is it was only the Seagram’s that did this. Everything tasted like cardboard.  It got so bad that it was this that I craved when I finally started craving.

So there you go!  It's a short list, but it helped me immensely.  What were your first trimester favorites?