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I'm not ready! (Nesting)

I haven't written in a while.  Truth be told, I've been tired and haven't felt like writing.  I'm still working and when I get home, I would much rather sleep than write.  Still...I'm late in update.

Today, I woke up to a flooded bathroom and dirty toilet water everywhere.  This is on the day that I have two meetings scheduled and a lot of prep work before maternity leave starts on Friday.  There was no way I would make them.  So I asked someone to cover for me and spent my morning with bleach, Clorox wipes, Pine-sol, and elbow grease.  That led to an extreme case of nesting.  I mean it was horrible.  Horrible.  I cleaned the bathroom then went through the kitchen.  I've been rearranging stuff.  It's a mess.

My three year old comes to me after I overdid it and was sitting in the living room chair only to tell me that the baby will be here soon. Specifically, she says "the baby wants to come out".  Um no, little one.  I have way too much to do for that.

The hospital bag is packed and in the car.  I do have to pack some snacks and make sure my charger, phone, and tablet are ready to go, but other than that, it's ready.  Still, I am not ready to have this baby.

Truthfully, I'm nervous about it.  I'm older, more out of shape (acknowledged), and I'm just nervous.  What if this one is more complicated?

I haven't discussed this with my husband yet.  But I'm nervous this go round.  My first pregnancy was so easy.  It was a decade ago.  I felt great.  This time.  Not so much.  I'm sleepy.  I'm not being able move as quickly as I was before.  I gained 30 pounds with the first pregnancy.  I'm pushing 37 this time around.

I hope this time I can have a quick recovery.

We'll see.
-K

36 weeks update and appointment

 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Our baby is now the size of a head of Romaine lettuce.  The skin is filling out.

Baby's Weight: 5.75 lbs
Baby's Length: 18.66 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am 187 pounds. I'm not happy about that number.  The doctor is thrilled with it.  I feel quite large at the moment.

Maternity clothes?: Yes, I'm in them everyday.  I do wear pre-pregnancy yoga leggings and they work pretty well.

Stretch marks?: I've never seen so many in my life.  My belly looks tiger striped.  Fortunately, I'm comfortable with the skin I'm in.

Sleep: I've been waking every hour on the hour for the past couple of nights to go to the bathroom.  One drink of water and I'm back up consistently.

Best moment of the week: Turning 36 weeks.  I realized that the clock is ticking.

Not so great moment of the week: Hearing that weight being read.  I'm going to have to put in work to get back to pre-pregnancy weight.

Symptoms: BH contractions, still craving blueberries and watermelon every day.

Appointments:  Appointments are now weekly.  Appointment on Monday has me 50% effaced, -1 station, 1.5 cm dilated, 117/45 BP, with fetal heartbeat at 150.  Appointment on Tuesday featured biophysical sonogram.

Miss Anything?: Not really

What I'm loving?: It's due date month!

What I'm not loving?: There is so much left to do and I haven't even started.

Movement: Pretty consistent.  Especially after strawberries and blueberry.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Not really, which is a great thing.

Food cravings: Blueberries, Watermelon, Strawberries, Cucumbers

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen I honestly have no idea what this baby will be.

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: I have the bag for the hospital.  I just haven't packed it yet.  I plan on doing some washing of clothes and liners soon.  I also pre-registered online for  L&D.

Looking forward to: the start of maternity leave.  I still have a while to go, but man am I getting tired of getting up for work.  I love the work.  It's the walking that is kicking my butt.

32 weeks pregnant

 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 32 weeks on 1July, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a Napa cabbage.  Because taste buds are developed, the baby may acquire a preference for the foods you eat, which it samples when she swallows amniotic fluid.
               
Baby's Weight: 3.75 lbs
Baby's Length: 16.69 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am 182 pounds.  I actually lost two pounds, which is probably a combination of the cold I caught and the fruits I've been consuming without delay.

Maternity clothes?: Still wearing them everyday though I have also worn a couple of pre-pregnancy maxi dresses with success.

Favorite maternity outfit: The maxi dress I wore for one of the church deacon's surprise birthday party.  I wore the same for my surprise baby shower and enjoyed having move to move around.

Stretch marks?:  Yes, sigh.  Yes.

Sleep: Minimum.  I caught our daughter's cold and am very stuffy.  Combine that with summer heat and I'm not getting much rest at all.

Best moment of the week: Seeing the look of surprise on the church deacon's face when he entered his party.  He's such a genuine spirit and it was so wonderful to see everyone honoring him.

Not so great moment of the week:  There were a couple.  The first was after the party I had major back pains and contractions for quite some time.  That was painful.  The other was our son is visiting his grandparents and paternal family in NC.  I miss him but know he is having a great time there.

Symptoms:  Back pain, BH contractions, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, cravings for water foods (watermelon, carrots, blueberries, cucumbers).

Miss Anything?: Not being so irritable and tired.  Truthfully pregnancy was a bit easier when I was a single mommy because I didn't get on anyone's nerve nor anyone on mine because I was in an apartment by myself most days.

What I'm loving?: It's my birthday month!

What I'm not loving?:  Pregnancy hormones.

Movement: Pretty consistent big moves.  As I write this, baby has been moving quite well.  I believe it may have to do with the blueberries and strawberries I ate earlier.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Blueberries

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen Okay, okay, I think it's a girl...maybe

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: Went to the doctor for our anatomy scan and everything went well.  The baby is actually measuring 4 pounds right now and has rolls, which is too cute.  I've never had a baby with chunka rolls.

Looking forward to: Feeling more like myself and our son returning home.

31 weeks pregnant


 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 30 weeks on 17June, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a large butternut squash.  The skin is still wrinkly, but as fat accumulates, the baby will fill out.
               
Baby's Weight: 3.31 lbs
Baby's Length: 16.180 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am still 183 pounds.  Total Weight Gain is now 26 pounds.

Maternity clothes?: Every single day.  Every single outfit.

Stretch marks?:  Yep.  Tons of them.

Sleep: Not very well at all.  I usually wake up at midnight and stay awake until 3 because I cannot get comfortable at all.

Best moment of the week: Leaving work on Friday.  I was more than ready for a three day weekend.

Not so great moment of the week:    My hormones were all over the place last week.  I preferred being left alone to communicating.

Symptoms:  Back pain, round ligament pain, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, cravings for water foods (watermelon, carrots, blueberries, cucumbers).

Miss Anything?:  Walking without waddling.

What I'm loving?: Getting closer to our due date.

What I'm not loving?:  S.'s comments about my weight.  He has no idea how close he is to my wrath.

Movement: Pretty consistent big moves.  The baby still rests low so I feel it in my pelvic region a lot unless it wants to float up.  

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Blueberries (refrigerated) and cucumbers

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen 

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: None really


Looking forward to: Sleep!

28 weeks pregnant update



DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 28 weeks on 3 June, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of an eggplant.  The baby is beginning to open its eyes and blink.
               
Baby's Weight: 2.22 lbs
Baby's Length: 14.80 in

Total weight gain/loss: Sigh.  I'm 179 pounds.  Plus 9 pounds in two weeks :(  Doctor says this is fine and it's all belly/belly from the looks of it.  I disagree.

Maternity clothes?: Yep.  Every day, all day.

Favorite maternity outfit: This week it was the outfit I wore to my doctor’s appointment.  A black long sleeve shirt with gray maternity pants and silver accessories.  It was comfortable, flexible, and looked cute.

Stretch marks?:  Yes, sigh.  Yes.

Sleep: I am still able to sleep pretty well as long as I have a pillow positioned properly.

Best moment of the week: Our surprise birthday party!  It was beautiful and my sisters hosted it.  I’d just posted about how I didn’t think anyone was interested in having anything and they did this!  I will share a post in a couple of days.

Not so great moment of the week:    My feet were huge by the time I got home from visiting NJ.  They didn’t hurt, but man they looked funny.

Braxton Hicks?: Yep!  And combined with back pain and round ligament pain, they hurt for about an hour on the way back from NJ.  Then, they went away.

Miss Anything?:  Not really.

What I'm loving?: The thoughtfulness of my siblings and this pretty chill weather

What I'm not loving?:  Urine leaks.  I sneezed and peed all over myself in the car with S. beside me.  Not a great moment lol.

Movement: Yes.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: I want ice cream a lot more now.  I try to have an ice cream sandwich at some point every day.

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen Still think it’s a girl though

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: We have baby onesies and baby stuff from the shower!!! We haven’t started on a nursery yet because we are either going to move our son into the larger bedroom in the basement or we are going to keep the baby with us for a while.


Looking forward to: Celebrating my son’s upcoming 5th grade transition.  

Baby shower surprise!

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

 In one of my previous posts, I’d shared how I was looking forward to seeing my family, but was disappointed because it didn’t look like we were going to have a shower for the baby. I reiterated that I wasn’t thinking about gifts, but thought it would be cool to celebrate this amazing blessing with family and I wondered if we would ever get a chance to celebrate our pregnancy in our #TTC world. Imagine my surprise when I popped into NJ with S. to visit my paternal family this weekend and found a beautiful surprise shower had been planned!





My awesome and amazing siblings were the planners. That’s three sisters and one brother. Their spouses, my in-loves, also helped as well as my bonus mother. I seriously had no idea. I had an inkling something was going on because Dad kept asking what time I was planning to come, but I was not expecting such a sweet surprise!

                     

Since we won’t know what Baby will be until delivery day, the family with a neutral pastel theme. Light yellows, greens, pinks, blues. It was beautiful.

  

They decided to all wear a beautiful palette of yellows and that just made everything come together so well. In addition to a beautiful job inside and outside with d├ęcor, the food was very yummy. My dad is a guru on the grill. He woke up early and grilled ribs and hamburgers. My bonus mother made an amazing rice and shrimp dish and a macaroni salad. My sister made shrimp kabobs. She also made chicken. We had tons of beverages and snacks. It was just family and it was amazing.

My beautiful sister T, was the game hostess. We had to guess the flavor of the baby food. Oh my yuckiness, lol! It’s hard to imagine how much babies love this stuff. This was evident by our three year old who wanted to try and then proceeded to demolish the sample off my spoon! She loved it LOL. My sister in love ended up guessing correctly in round one (apples and pears) and my brother (her husband) guessed correctly in round two. This makes a lot of sense because my niece is almost two. They are familiar with the flavors lol.

The men disappeared and the ladies ended up opening gifts lol. It was the first time some of my brother in loves got to spend time with my husband and they were having a ball. We allowed them their fun and opened onesies and diapers, wipes, shirts, gift cards, and so much more. It was all appreciated so very much!

We gathered everyone in the kitchen and cut the very yummy, very tasty vanilla shortcake with banana cream. It was so good. My sister was a bit annoyed because she’d ordered strawberry and banana and only received the banana. I told her it was so good that I didn’t care and would never have known had not she mentioned it. Seriously, guys, it was delicious.

After the cakes, gift opening and seconds (or thirds), we sat around chitchatting for another couple of hours and then it was time to go. I seriously can’t say enough about how beautiful and thoughtful everything was. It was one of the best trips to visit my family ever! I can’t thank them enough for loving me and for celebrating our family addition.

Here are some additional pictures for you!





27 weeks pregnant

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 27 weeks on 28 May, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).


Our baby is now the size of a zuccchini.  Eyebrows and eyelashes are well-defined; plus the baby may have more hair this week. 

Baby's Weight: 1.68 lbs
Baby's Length: 14.02 in

Total weight gain/loss: Unknown. I didn’t weigh myself this week. Last count was +17 pounds at 170.

Maternity clothes?: Yep. Every day, all day.

Favorite maternity outfit: Believe it or not, it was a maternity sleep shirt and some pajama bottoms. I was so comfortable wearing them around the house this week.

Stretch marks?: Yes, sigh. Yes.

Sleep: Not bad. The baby is super active about 10ish. I watch it flip and play until it’s tired, drink some water to rehydrate, and then drift off if the pillows are positioned correctly.

Best moment of the week: Watching my son and husband grill together. S. was teaching him how to marinate meat and turn it. It was a very cool memory.

Not so great moment of the week: My feet were a bit swollen this week. Nothing major and only after being on them all day. Other than that, we were fine.

Braxton Hicks?: Yes. They don’t hurt this week, but they are there. Back and round ligament pain like to follow them though.

Miss Anything?: Moment of transparency. My mommy. She’s in a different state as are most of my relatives and there doesn’t seem to be any talk or plans for a baby celebration. I could not care less about gifts. But I would love to have a celebration for the baby/pregnancy. My birthday is in July. Maybe we can plan something then.

What I'm loving?: Weather I can walk in without being too hot.

What I'm not loving?: The baby punching my bladder. Sometimes I leak.

Movement: Yes.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat. Heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Here’s an odd one. I wanted a Papa John’s works pizza the other day and S. wouldn’t get it. Cool beans. I’ll get it myself later (LOL).

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen, but I think it’s a girl. That belly is all kinds of wide

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy though the hormones are real.

Preparations for baby: Not really

Looking forward to
: Seeing my family this weekend. It should be a nice time

25 weeks pregnant

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 25 weeks on 14 May, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Oops! I completely forgot to post this last week. Here's the update for 25 weeks. Our 26 week post will be added soon. Baby is now the size of an acorn squash. The baby is developing a firm grasp and may reach out and grab the umbilical cord. The baby is also able to stick out its tongue.

Baby's Weight: 1.46 lbs

Baby's Length: 13.62 in

Total weight gain/loss: I currently weigh 170.  I started this journey at 153.  I have gained 17 pounds overall.

Maternity clothes?: Yep. Every day, all day.

Favorite maternity outfit: My church outfit. A black and white tunic dress purchased from Zulily.com with pearl accessories and black flats. I was comfortable and cute and received compliments at church, so no complaints there.

Stretch marks?: Yes, sigh. Yes.

Sleep: Not really. I’ve been waking about 2AM and going downstairs to watch TV until 3 or 4, and then trying to return to bed then.

Best moment of the week: Clearing that flower bed. Oh my, it’s been an eyesore. I just haven’t had the energy to do anything about it. I finally gathered some on Saturday and spent close to four hours outside cutting, pruning, trimming, pulling, etc. It still isn’t done but looks a lot better than when I started.

Not so great moment of the week: The back pain after I finished working the flower bed. I was in PAIN. But, this too shall pass.

Braxton Hicks?: Yes. Not painful, this week, but they were there.

Miss Anything?: Not really. I wanted to discuss family vacations as we usually have everything locked on and paid for by now. S. is wary of doing anything because I am so very pregnant and will be limited in participating. So, we’re trying to figure out our plans.

What I'm loving?: Watching the baby move under my skin and seeing my children’s reaction to it.

What I'm not loving?:
Being so tired all the time.

Movement: Yes.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat. Heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Nope.

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen, but I think it’s a girl. That belly is all kinds of wide.

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy and very calm.

Preparations for baby: Not really





Looking forward to: A nap

Birth Plan Discussions?



Hi everyone. Hope all is well in your worlds today. I was sitting at my desk recounting a conversation I had with S. yesterday along with some recent reading I’d done. There was a blog post I read entitled “Giving Birth is not a Party”. I read it and could relate to the author’s frustration with the way some people take the experience of birth as a right to be present. I get it. It’s exciting. It’s new life for goodness sakes! BUT, it’s not for everyone. Most of you know how fortunate I was in my first pregnancy. I was a single mom doing it solo. My mother wouldn’t be in attendance at the birth and I was bummed about being there by myself. Then my sister squad came through after I called them and told them my water had broken. By the end of my 11 hours and 55 minutes of labor, there were six beautiful woman in that room welcoming the birth of my son. It was powerful. It was beautiful. It was soul stirring. It was something that will never be duplicated. Nor should it. This time, I want things different…and they already are.

I am married now to a man whom I love with all of me—even when he drives me bonkers lol. This is our first biological child together. We’ve been blessed to experience the joys of newborn raising together (our daughter) and the joys of raising a preschooler to soon-to-be middle schooler (our son-wow), but pregnancy and delivery have never been experienced together. I thought about how big our families are and how many people could easily say they were on their way and, quite frankly, I don’t want that. It seems to take away from things.  That’s what I told S.

I asked if he would have any objections to it being just the two of us in the delivery room. I know my husband has tons of brothers, a sister, sister in laws, and that together we have so many nieces, nephews, etc. I love spending time with them and I love the energy they bring to any event.  However, I don't think I want all that energy when we are laboring.  I would like it to be just he and I laboring together.  This is our one team, one flesh, one effort moment.  I don’t want  have to worry about people seeing my nether regions or talking when I want complete silence. I just want it to be he and I. At least, that’s what I think I want.

S. didn't seem to have a problem with this at all and joked that maybe we should let everyone know after the baby was born and at home.  I actually like the sound of that, but also know that I wouldn't mind a couple of friends or family members in the downtime where he has to go home.  My mother won't be down until several weeks later. I suspect I'll be there for a couple of nights minimum.  S. will be going back and forth with the babies and I wouldn't mind someone sitting with me for a little while--maybe.

I think most will be okay with any decision to wait until we are home since their travel distance is an hour minimum.  I'd prefer they wait until the baby is about a week old before coming over.  I want the family to have time to be home and enjoy meeting and loving the baby.

The only exception to the wait until we get home rule will have to be my babies.  I would like our son and daughter to meet the baby in the hospital.  I think it will be a nice time for them spend some time together, take pictures, and return home knowing we'll see them the next day.  This will be especially important for our oldest.  He is very protective of me.  I know he will be worried if he doesn't see me and will want to know that I am okay.

I was putting all of this off since we have a couple of months before things are solid, but then two of my fellow pregnant mothers delivered early.  My former colleague and my cousin.  The colleague went three months early.  The cousin went three weeks early.  My office has also recently started to ask when I plan to take maternity leave, so I suppose I have to start thinking about this stuff now.
Any thoughts?  What did you do? What are you doing? Who will be in L&D with you if you are doing a hospital birth? Who will be with you if it’s a home birth?  When are you starting maternity leave?

-K

First Trimester Favorites

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.



Hi everyone!  I was recently asked about my favorite first and second trimester favorites since we are starting to approach trimester three.  I was eager to share my top four and decided to make a post out of it as well.  I hope these help you as much as they did me.  I was very thankful for them.  I'll share my second trimester favorites soon.  In the mean time, feel free to comment on your favorites as well. 

1. Preggie Pop Drops. You know, I never really had morning sickness with my son. I would feel an occasional nauseous rise, but nothing substantial. Oh my goodness, this pregnancy was so different. I can’t exactly recall which week, but I know it’s listed in the blog, that I started being fit with overwhelming nausea, but I did and it was no joke. Someone suggested preggie pops and I very skeptically tried them. (insert angelic melody of angel chorus). They were an immediate help. They are basically hard candies, but something about them stops the nausea and lets you focus on other things for an hour or so instead of concentrating on not getting sick.



2. The Pregnancy Bible. The title is a misnomer, but it’s an excellent book that I have enjoyed sharing with friends and family alike. I loved it when I was carrying my first and it has been a welcomed reference in this pregnancy as well.  I'm told there is an updated version now.  I didn't purchase this one, but I certainly am considering it!

 


3. Gummy Prenatals. These are the ONLY prenatal vitamins I was able to take without them visiting me soon thereafter. They taste great and provide almost all of the nutrition my little one needs. The exception is iron which I supplement through food or a small pill later in the day.


4. Seagram’s Ginger Ale. When all else failed, this ginger ale helped to keep my stomach settled and my body functioning. The funny this is it was only the Seagram’s that did this. Everything tasted like cardboard.  It got so bad that it was this that I craved when I finally started craving.

So there you go!  It's a short list, but it helped me immensely.  What were your first trimester favorites?

-K

Maternity Leave Discussions, Already?

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Hi everyone. Hope you are all doing well. A little while ago, my project lead came over to me to discuss work. At the conclusion of the conversation he asked if I’d given thought to when I would be starting maternity leave. I told him I’d thought about it, but because I’m only six months on and not due until August, I hadn’t planned on finalizing anything until June. He said that was fine, but hinted that I may want to make my plans official sooner. That got me thinking. Isn’t it too early to be planning maternity leave?

Apparently not. When I thought back on the birth of my first son, I remembered that I delivered my expected maternity plan in July. He wasn’t due until September. Granted, at the time I was doing a lot of business travel, so it was necessary to have everything thought out and arranged to ensure a smooth transition, but I just hadn’t thought about that with this one. I mean, I do minimum work travel. I’m at a desk most of the day. My activity level is limited to the walking I do through the bays in our office, and the pregnancy has been pretty uneventful. So, why do I need to think about maternity leave now? Well, mainly because things are very different.

Maternity leave with this company is unpaid. Ugh. I have been very blessed in my life. When I was a single mother, God saw fit for me to work at a company that gave you 100% salary paid maternity leave for six weeks. That was such a blessing to me and I almost missed out on it because I was just so sure the company didn’t have it. When I called HR and gave them the news, they sent a congratulations packet with all of these really neat forms and discounts. Best company ever. Unfortunately, they lost the next contract in recompete and I had to move with the contract to a new company.

The company I am with now only offers FMLA (which is up to 12 weeks unpaid) and/or use of personal time off (vacation) hours. Because I don’t have that much leave, I’m planning on going in the hole and paying that leave back after my return, which doesn’t bother me because I would zero out theoretically in three months—just in time for the holidays. I usually only take the day before Thanksgiving to cook and surf on the Thanksgiving holiday provided. Christmas is the same way.

There is STD as an option, but I got the impression from other recent maternity moms and from
conversations with the company that they would prefer this not be an option. It’s not really that appealing of an option to take. It’s 50% of my weekly salary up to $1500, but is still taxed accordingly. I can’t start it until after the baby is born and must receive approval for it from the
company then. So, if the baby is born on or around 26 Aug, then I can’t apply for STD until 26 August and have to wait for approval. The company is allowed 14 business days to approve or disapprove. In the mean time, I would have no salary coming in minus leave. That more than likely won't work, so COA work seems to be my go-to right now.

My customer is relocating to a new facility in June. They probably won’t be settled in with working phones and a true semblance of communication until mid-June. There is also a serious reorganization going on within that same customer’s environment. That means the month of June will be super crazy and any paperwork (like my maternity leave plan) could theoretically be lost or forgotten. So, it appears it is a better idea to get started sooner than later.

So, I get it. I do. I’ve scoured the Internet looking for sample maternity letter templates and researching the benefits afforded by the FMLA. I finally started drafting my own letter and I think it’s almost ready. I want to get S.’s opinion of it before I release it to my boss, our team lead, and the other appropriate personnel.

Right now, I’m planning to do 4 weeks of PTO with buy back option for any negative balances, 1 week of teleworking, and then returning to the office at the start of week 6. The timing is similar to what I did with my first pregnancy, so I assume it can work. The adjustment in children pick up and timeline will be interesting though. We know H. will be starting preschool a bit before I return to work and little S. will be starting middle school. So, it’s going to be an interesting time in our homestead for sure.

Times like this, it would be nice to have the maternity coverage of other countries, but I certainly don’t see that happening anytime soon. So, what did you do? What are you doing? Feel free to share.

Talk to you soon.

-K

24 weeks pregnant

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 24 weeks on 7 May, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of an ear of corn.  The nostrils are opening now for “practice breathing”.  The baby will go through the same motions of real breathing, but will inhale amniotic fluid instead of air.

Baby's Weight: 1.32 lbs

Baby's Length: 11.81 in


Total weight gain/loss: I haven’t weighed myself this week.

Maternity clothes?: Yep. Every day, all day.

Stretch marks?: Yes

Sleep?: It varies. I finally found a right combination of pillows and arrangement that make sleep possible.

Best moment of the week: Celebrations. S. and I went to celebrate the retirement of a mutual family friend from the USAF. A wonderful time and lots of yummy food and great fellowship! Then the Pre-Mother’s Day celebration. My husband and son came home with beautiful bouquets of roses for my mother-in-love and I. Our son also had a small potted plant for me. We then enjoyed a meal at home that I didn’t have to prepare. It was a great evening and I was very thankful.

Not so great moment of the week: Trying 3s. The period of time where your feisty and independent three year old preschooler thinks rules don’t apply to her and your job is to remind her that they absolutely do.

Braxton Hicks?: Not so painful this week, but they are definitely there.

Miss Anything?: Not peeing my underwear.

What I'm loving?: Feeling this baby kick at night.

What I'm not loving?: My nausea seems to be returning, along with some cramping.

Movement: Yes. It tends to stay in the lower portion of my womb.  Occasionally, I'll get a kick in the ab area too.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Yes, but I don’t know what it is.

Food cravings: Veggies. I crushed a ziplock bag of celery like it was a delicacy.

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Have you started to show yet: Yes. I think we will retire this one soon too.

Gender prediction: #teamgreen, but I think it’s a girl. That belly is all kinds of wide

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Mixed bag.

Preparations for baby: 1. Contacted the insurance company to confirm free breast pump and what I need to do to receive it. 2. Started working on my maternity leave plan and prep coworkers for a temporary shift of lead roles Aug-Oct.

Looking forward to:
Mother’s Day (which is the day I turned 25 weeks)

We're switching birth locations!!!

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Hello everyone!  We hope everyone is doing well.  You may remember some time ago, I mentioned that S. and I discussed switching our birth locations.  We have thought about it for a while now and have decided it is definitely the right decision for us and our little one.

S. and I live about three minutes from a fairly new hospital (<5 years old) and about 15 minutes from the one that delivered my son ten years ago.  The newer hospital was created to accomodate the medical needs of the people in our rapidly growing city.  I was really excited about that when we moved into our home because I figured one day, just maybe, S. and I would get to use its Labor and Delivery.

Well, since that time, several colleagues, friends, and associates have delivered their children there. In query, all have had pretty pleasant things to say.  BUT there seemed to be a series of consistent complaints or quirks across the board from the same.  The newer hospital has only 10 Labor and Delivery rooms.  If there is a busy night of babies being born, the hospital staff encourages its L&D patients to leave the hospital as soon as medically possible because they need the bed.  In the case of one colleague, she was discharged right at 24 hours post-delivery despite the fact that she had a C-section.  (I wasn't even aware that was medically advisable).  The nurse explained that she was medically sound and the hospital needed the bed for another laboring patient.  That kind of worked for her, but added to a harrowing experience because her baby had to be rushed to NICU.  The newer hospital doesn't have a NICU; the hospital 15 minutes away from us does.  So, her baby was immediately transferred by ambulance to the next hospital with her husband and she was by herself waiting to recover before being discharged and hoping to receive news about her child. I couldn't imagine!

The newer hospital also doesn't have a nursery which means baby sleeps in the room with mom and dad 24 /7. That's not necessarily a bad thing because it does encourage bonding.  In the hospital fifteen minutes away, I remembered keeping my son with me most of the time with the exception of taking a shower and three to four hours the night before discharge because I knew I'd need the rest.  I liked having the option.  In the case of another colleague who'd been in labor about 32 hours, she didn't really have an opportunity to rest because baby was with her at all times and she came out more tired than she went in.  Again, both colleagues spoke highly of the staff and the experience, but wished for nursery and not feeling rushed to leave even though their insurances actually covered additional in-patient time.

The newer hospital does have an Intermediate level NICU, but I still feel a bit uncomfortable with the option of no nursery especially if S. won't be staying the night in order to watch the kids.

So, with all of that in mind and a lot of discussion,  S. and I have decided that I will be delivering at the hospital which delivered my son (15 minute away).  The hospital has a stellar reputation, a level 1 trauma and NICU bay, a completely renovated labor and delivery department with private suite like rooms, a nursery, and are great about baby care.  S. joked that I only get one false alarm.  (Yeah, I gave him the look lol, but I didn't have false alarms with the first, so hopefully none with this one either).

So there we stand.  When my water breaks and/or when the consistent contractions come, we'll book down the Interstate (only 2 exits) and will give birth there.  Super excited!

Yay!  Anyone else making birthing location decisions?

22 week update

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 22 weeks on 23 Apr, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a papaya. The lungs are developing rapidly, and they will begin to make a protein called surfactant, which will help the baby to breathe independently once born..

Baby's Weight: 15.17 oz.
Baby's Length: 10.94 in

Total weight gain/loss: I haven’t weighed myself this week.

Maternity clothes?: Yep. Every day, all day.

Stretch marks?: Yes

Sleep: I’m waking to go to the bathroom at night and I have stretches where I can’t sleep so I go downstairs to wait it out..

Best moment of the week: When S. made me breakfast when I was running late. It was such a kind and considerate thing to do.

Not so great moment of the week: My emotions were everywhere this week.

Braxton Hicks?: Not so bad this week, but always after church and choir rehearsal

Miss Anything?: A margarita. It would be nice to go to the restaurant with a book and indulge.

What I'm loving?: We moved our daughter into a toddler bed this week. She has been sleeping like a champ with no complaints and is super happy!

What I'm not loving?: I’m feeling anxious. We really haven’t…prepped anything. I know we have time, but…man…

Movement: Yes. Especially after eating.

Anything make you queasy or sick: So I honestly thought morning sickness was over. My colleague bought a cup of coffee back from the mess to his desk. UGH! I literally hunted around my space until I found out what that horrible smell was. That made me queasy.

Food cravings: I wanted pizza….badly.

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Have you started to show yet: Yes. I think we will retire this question soon too.

Gender prediction: #teamgreen, but I think it’s a girl.

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Mixed bag.

Preparations for baby: Not yet.

Looking forward to: Visiting family in NC.

21 weeks


DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 21 weeks on 16 Apr, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Your baby is now the size of a carrot. Your baby is as long as a carrot, and his skin now responds to touch. If you put pressure on your belly, he'll move away or push back.



Baby's Weight: 12.70 oz.
Baby's Length: 10.51 in.


Total weight gain/loss: I am 170 pounds. I have gained 16 pounds overall this pregnancy.

Maternity clothes?: Yep. Every day, all day. Full panel pants are my favorite

Stretch marks?: Yes

Sleep: This week I have been very tired, most of the day. By the end of the work day, I actually catch a ten minute nap in the car in the parking lot before driving home.  I am also in pain at night.

Best moment of the week: There were two.  The anatomy scan was two hours of bliss.  The other was spending time with my eldest son. We haven’t had a lot of alone time, so I was glad to share it with him.

Not so great moment of the week: A severe miscommunication with my husband led to our spending our anniversary doing nothing…at all.

Braxton Hicks?: Yep.

Miss Anything?: Not at the moment.

What I'm loving?: A pretty good week. Easter holiday, a wedding anniversary, and family time.

What I'm not loving?: These pains

Movement: Yes. Especially after eating.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Not eating and overdoing it.

Food cravings: None

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Have you started to show yet: Yes

Gender prediction: #teamgreen

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Mixed bag.

Preparations for baby: Not yet.

Looking forward to: A Sip and Paint event my gf is hosting. Obviously, I can’t sip, but I am looking forward to the painting part.




Anatomy scan

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Hi everyone! I had my anatomy scan a couple of days ago and have finally had some time to share a post about it. Little one looks healthy and happy and was very well behaved during the scan. I was there for about a little over two hours and they measured and scanned everything. I also got to see the baby in 3D, which was a first for me and was beautiful. Little one was yawning and it was such a precious moment that I got teary eyed. S. couldn’t join me and I felt bad at first that he wouldn’t be there, but I have to say that there was something so extremely intimate and powerful about seeing your child on a screen being happy and free. No interruptions, just peace. It was beautiful.

Here are a few of my favorites for you:

Someone was yawning

Perfectly content

Nestled for a nap

I am not scheduled for another scan until 32 weeks. I’m looking forward to that time, just to see how big Little one has gotten since we only listen to heartbeats in the office. It’s still amazing to me that we are at this moment and everything is flowing well. We’ll keep praying it stays that way.

I hope you enjoy the pictures and have a very great day.

By the way, any guesses what Little one may be?  We're still #TeamGreen here, but it's been fun hearing the guess of everyone.

-K

20 weeks pregnancy update

 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 20 weeks on 9 Apr, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).


Your baby is now the size of a banana.  The legs are longer than the arms and baby will start giving me “hello” jabs at regular intervals, some of which I can actually feel.

Baby's Weight: 8.47 oz.
Baby's Length: 6.02 in.

Total weight gain/loss: I am 168 pounds.  I have gained 14 pounds since pregnancy.

Maternity clothes?: Yes.  I have worn maternity attire every day this week with one or two pre-pregnancy stage clothes sprinkled through. The outfit below is one of my favorite. It's so comfortable, stylish, and I can accessorize it a number of ways.  Love it.

I bought the cardigan from Zulily and the pregnancy tank from Target.  Love how comfortable they are.


Stretch marks?:  Yep.  Not terrible but they are there.  I don’t mind at all J

Sleep: I have a lot of back pain now, so I spend some time getting into position.  Then I’m good to go until I wake for the bathroom still twice a night.

Best moment of the week: Easter fellowship with the family.

Not so great moment of the week: The horrible leg cramps that I am experiencing

Braxton Hicks?:  New question since we retired the does the family know one!  YES!  And unlike my first, these bamas hurt sometimes!  The first hit me when visiting with my mom at the Maryland House Toll Plaza/Rest Stop.  It went from tummy to back and hurt!  I had to visibly stop, collect myself, and breathe through it!  Then it happened again two minutes later.  Rehydrated and felt some better.  That night, I felt them without pain.  How fun!

Miss Anything?:  Not at the moment.

What I'm loving?: This beautiful weather!  I took a walk at work and the Vitamin D was so appreciated.  I have also taken to walking some in the afternoon. Hopefully, if we can maintain these temperatures, I can walk up until delivery day and help with labor.

What I'm not loving?: The cramps in my leg and backs.

Movement: Yes.  It’s weird because I feel baby in the very bottom of my belly, truly “in the womb” whereas baby’s brother was all over the place and I could feel/see his movements in my belly at 20 weeks.  This baby seems to like to hang out in closer quarters.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Not eating

Food cravings: None

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Have you started to show yet: Yes

Gender prediction: #teamgreen

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Mixed bag.

Preparations for baby: None.


Looking forward to: Going to my first Paint n' Sip party.  Obviously, my sipping will be virgin, but I'm really looking forward to trying to paint.


19 weeks update



DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 19 weeks on 2 Apr, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Your baby is now the size of a mango. The legs are longer than the arms and baby will start giving me “hello” jabs at regular intervals, some of which I can actually feel.

Baby's Weight: 8.47 oz.
Baby's Length: 6.02 in.
                           




Total weight gain/loss: Unknown. I haven’t weight myself this week.

Maternity clothes?: Yes. This week I wore some piece of maternity attire each day. My favorites were definitely the Liz Lange Maternity dress from Target (wore to church on Sunday.  See pic) and the comfortable Liz Lange Maternity tank, Zulily cardigan, and maternity pants a colleague gifted me with for a work outfit.

19 weeks with Liz Lange Maternity dress
Stretch marks?: Yep, but I can’t tell if they are the ones from my first pregnancy just visiting again. Either way…badges of honor!

Sleep: Restless. It takes a while to get comfortable and I still wake twice a night to go to the bathroom.

Best moment of the week: Going to my son’s middle school orientation. I felt so much better after the orientation. He’s growing up.
                             
Not so great moment of the week: I overdid it last Sunday (2 Apr) and had intense back and side pain all night long. When I asked S. to massage my back or rub my belly, he was too engrossed in the game to hear me and when he finally did, he still couldn’t focus on helping me. Sigh.

Have you told family and friends: Yes. Retiring this question this week. Pretty much everyone who needs to know does

Miss Anything?: Not at the moment.

What I'm loving?: Fruits and vegetables.  I had strawberries earlier in the week and they were phenomenal.  The baby loved them as well as the movement was nonstop after I had them.

What I'm not loving?: Full disclosure. The occasional feeling of doing this solo. Pregnancy hormones are real. Sometimes I feel like I’m doing this solo. I had some pretty big thoughts of what my husband would do when we he found out we were pregnant. Belly rubs, date nights, hand holding, just enjoying the moment.  More often than not lately it doesn’t seem to go that way and my hormones cause it to hurt more than it shouldThat and yucky weather.

Movement: Yes.

Anything make you queasy or sick: If I don’t eat every two hours.

Food cravings: Fruit

Food aversion:
 Chicken, blech!

Have you started to show yet: Yes

Gender prediction: #teamgreen, My NC family swears its a girl.

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Mixed bag

Preparations for baby: Nope

Looking forward to: Our anataomy scan in a couple of weeks.