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Our first OB/Gyn Appointment post FET




BUMP UPDATE- Week 11

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, especially those experiencing loss, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand and I am still praying for all of you.

PREGNANCY WEEK 12- January 23, 2019 (16-23 Jan 2019)
Today was supposed to be our first obstetrician appointment for this little one.  Unfortunately, I was almost there when I realized I left my wallet at home with my insurance cards and identification.  I called the office and we realized that I would not have time to do all I needed to do, so we had to rescheduled for tomorrow.  Sadness.  But that's okay.  I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow and I'm interested in seeing how things have progressed.


What I packed in my hospital bag, what I actually used, and what I wish I had included

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Hello everyone.  Well, our little one is currently two months old and we were recently asked about the hospital bag and its contents.  I looked back at the blog and realized I wrote a draft post, but never posted it about what I was packing this time around.  Well, I reviewed that post today and decided to share what I packed, what I actually used, and some things I wish I had.  Hope it helps someone and happy reading.

I'm not ready! (Nesting)

I haven't written in a while.  Truth be told, I've been tired and haven't felt like writing.  I'm still working and when I get home, I would much rather sleep than write.  Still...I'm late in update.

Today, I woke up to a flooded bathroom and dirty toilet water everywhere.  This is on the day that I have two meetings scheduled and a lot of prep work before maternity leave starts on Friday.  There was no way I would make them.  So I asked someone to cover for me and spent my morning with bleach, Clorox wipes, Pine-sol, and elbow grease.  That led to an extreme case of nesting.  I mean it was horrible.  Horrible.  I cleaned the bathroom then went through the kitchen.  I've been rearranging stuff.  It's a mess.

My three year old comes to me after I overdid it and was sitting in the living room chair only to tell me that the baby will be here soon. Specifically, she says "the baby wants to come out".  Um no, little one.  I have way too much to do for that.

The hospital bag is packed and in the car.  I do have to pack some snacks and make sure my charger, phone, and tablet are ready to go, but other than that, it's ready.  Still, I am not ready to have this baby.

Truthfully, I'm nervous about it.  I'm older, more out of shape (acknowledged), and I'm just nervous.  What if this one is more complicated?

I haven't discussed this with my husband yet.  But I'm nervous this go round.  My first pregnancy was so easy.  It was a decade ago.  I felt great.  This time.  Not so much.  I'm sleepy.  I'm not being able move as quickly as I was before.  I gained 30 pounds with the first pregnancy.  I'm pushing 37 this time around.

I hope this time I can have a quick recovery.

We'll see.
-K

37 weeks

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Our baby is now the size of a stalk of Swiss chard. Because baby is running out of room, there are mostly stretches and wiggles instead of big kicks

Baby's Weight: 6.30 lbs

Baby's Length: 19.13 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am officially 187 pounds. Total Weight Gain is now 30 pounds.

Maternity clothes?: Yes and some of those are having to make room to accommodate this belly.

36 weeks update and appointment

 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Our baby is now the size of a head of Romaine lettuce.  The skin is filling out.

Baby's Weight: 5.75 lbs
Baby's Length: 18.66 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am 187 pounds. I'm not happy about that number.  The doctor is thrilled with it.  I feel quite large at the moment.

Maternity clothes?: Yes, I'm in them everyday.  I do wear pre-pregnancy yoga leggings and they work pretty well.

Stretch marks?: I've never seen so many in my life.  My belly looks tiger striped.  Fortunately, I'm comfortable with the skin I'm in.

Sleep: I've been waking every hour on the hour for the past couple of nights to go to the bathroom.  One drink of water and I'm back up consistently.

Best moment of the week: Turning 36 weeks.  I realized that the clock is ticking.

Not so great moment of the week: Hearing that weight being read.  I'm going to have to put in work to get back to pre-pregnancy weight.

Symptoms: BH contractions, still craving blueberries and watermelon every day.

Appointments:  Appointments are now weekly.  Appointment on Monday has me 50% effaced, -1 station, 1.5 cm dilated, 117/45 BP, with fetal heartbeat at 150.  Appointment on Tuesday featured biophysical sonogram.

Miss Anything?: Not really

What I'm loving?: It's due date month!

What I'm not loving?: There is so much left to do and I haven't even started.

Movement: Pretty consistent.  Especially after strawberries and blueberry.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Not really, which is a great thing.

Food cravings: Blueberries, Watermelon, Strawberries, Cucumbers

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen I honestly have no idea what this baby will be.

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: I have the bag for the hospital.  I just haven't packed it yet.  I plan on doing some washing of clothes and liners soon.  I also pre-registered online for  L&D.

Looking forward to: the start of maternity leave.  I still have a while to go, but man am I getting tired of getting up for work.  I love the work.  It's the walking that is kicking my butt.

I've met my temp!

Hello everyone.  So, I know you aren't really supposed to be excited about meeting the person who will be taking your place while you are absent from work, but I was super excited when mine showed up today.  It was her first day of work and she is to begin shadowing me in preparation for my start to maternity leave.

This was great for a number of reasons.  Number one means time is getting close!  I currently have 5 more weeks and I'm excited about that.  Number two is there is a great chance there will be additional opportunity for placement if all goes well.  Considering we've been short handed for a while, I think that's awesome.  Finally, hope.  Lol, it means there is light at the end of the tunnel.  I may actually be starting maternity leave soon.  I can hardly wait.

So, we have a lot of work to do.  I've already introduced her to the team and relevant customers and stakeholders.  Now comes the work of meetings and my day to day stuff.  By the time I leave, she'll be good to go and I won't have any issues about it at all.

Have any of you started prepping for maternity leave?  Have you written your out of office statement yet?  Feel free to share.

K

Scary moments

Hi everyone.  Sorry, I've been offline lately.  Things were pretty quiet.  So much so that I didn't have much to write about.  That changed this morning.  I had an appointment scheduled for today, a regular check up to see how Baby is doing.  I noticed when I woke this morning to leave for the appointment and drop off our daughter at daycare that I hadn't felt the baby move as often as I usually do.  In fact, minus one tiny movement this morning, I hadn't felt baby move since about 10PM.  I was nervous.

My appointment wasn't until 1030 and there was a full house this morning.  By the time I got in the exam room, I'd counted one movement in over an hour.  Baby usually gives me 3-5 in the same time duration.  It's pretty active especially around times I usually feed (breakfast, snack, lunch).  I mentioned to the nurse that I hadn't felt the baby and that it was probably sleeping, but I was a bit concerned.  She took note and promised to share with the doctor.

The doctor came in and listened to baby's heartbeat and it was a normal 141, as it had been for the past few appointments.  The doctor asked about the note about the movement and noted that the baby hadn't kicked the doppler like it usually does.  She asked when was the last time I felt a movement and I informed her I felt a tiny one when I woke that morning, several hours earlier.

She immediately scheduled a sonogram for me in house.  She said with the heartbeat she wasn't too concerned, but was concerned enough that she wanted to check it out.  Suddenly I got really nervous and started almost willing baby to move.  Nothing.  The sonogram list was also heavy so I'm sitting there updating my IG and texting my husband asking for prayers because by now it was pushing 1140 and I'd felt nothing.  I prayed myself and maybe five minutes later, I felt the baby start hiccuping.  I was so relieved just to feel hiccups that I found myself teary eyed.

Finally, it was my turn in the sonogram room and the tech explained what she was looking for--baby movement, good amount of amniotic fluid, baby practicing breathing, proof that it is not in distress. When the baby came on the screen, the tech smiled and said she could see the baby practicing breathing just fine.  She continued checking and realized baby was in fact resting, but had woken.  He or she was sucking its thumb and just resting.

I felt so much better.  The baby was fine.  The relief I feel at this moment is amazing.

After the sonographer dismissed me, I was directed to rest up for the rest of the day, so I'm in my bed working from home with feet up.  Anything for baby.

I thought I would share with you all.  Thank you for the prayers.

-WinterMommy

32 weeks pregnant

 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 32 weeks on 1July, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a Napa cabbage.  Because taste buds are developed, the baby may acquire a preference for the foods you eat, which it samples when she swallows amniotic fluid.
               
Baby's Weight: 3.75 lbs
Baby's Length: 16.69 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am 182 pounds.  I actually lost two pounds, which is probably a combination of the cold I caught and the fruits I've been consuming without delay.

Maternity clothes?: Still wearing them everyday though I have also worn a couple of pre-pregnancy maxi dresses with success.

Favorite maternity outfit: The maxi dress I wore for one of the church deacon's surprise birthday party.  I wore the same for my surprise baby shower and enjoyed having move to move around.

Stretch marks?:  Yes, sigh.  Yes.

Sleep: Minimum.  I caught our daughter's cold and am very stuffy.  Combine that with summer heat and I'm not getting much rest at all.

Best moment of the week: Seeing the look of surprise on the church deacon's face when he entered his party.  He's such a genuine spirit and it was so wonderful to see everyone honoring him.

Not so great moment of the week:  There were a couple.  The first was after the party I had major back pains and contractions for quite some time.  That was painful.  The other was our son is visiting his grandparents and paternal family in NC.  I miss him but know he is having a great time there.

Symptoms:  Back pain, BH contractions, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, cravings for water foods (watermelon, carrots, blueberries, cucumbers).

Miss Anything?: Not being so irritable and tired.  Truthfully pregnancy was a bit easier when I was a single mommy because I didn't get on anyone's nerve nor anyone on mine because I was in an apartment by myself most days.

What I'm loving?: It's my birthday month!

What I'm not loving?:  Pregnancy hormones.

Movement: Pretty consistent big moves.  As I write this, baby has been moving quite well.  I believe it may have to do with the blueberries and strawberries I ate earlier.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Blueberries

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen Okay, okay, I think it's a girl...maybe

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: Went to the doctor for our anatomy scan and everything went well.  The baby is actually measuring 4 pounds right now and has rolls, which is too cute.  I've never had a baby with chunka rolls.

Looking forward to: Feeling more like myself and our son returning home.

31 weeks pregnant


 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 30 weeks on 17June, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a large butternut squash.  The skin is still wrinkly, but as fat accumulates, the baby will fill out.
               
Baby's Weight: 3.31 lbs
Baby's Length: 16.180 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am still 183 pounds.  Total Weight Gain is now 26 pounds.

Maternity clothes?: Every single day.  Every single outfit.

Stretch marks?:  Yep.  Tons of them.

Sleep: Not very well at all.  I usually wake up at midnight and stay awake until 3 because I cannot get comfortable at all.

Best moment of the week: Leaving work on Friday.  I was more than ready for a three day weekend.

Not so great moment of the week:    My hormones were all over the place last week.  I preferred being left alone to communicating.

Symptoms:  Back pain, round ligament pain, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, cravings for water foods (watermelon, carrots, blueberries, cucumbers).

Miss Anything?:  Walking without waddling.

What I'm loving?: Getting closer to our due date.

What I'm not loving?:  S.'s comments about my weight.  He has no idea how close he is to my wrath.

Movement: Pretty consistent big moves.  The baby still rests low so I feel it in my pelvic region a lot unless it wants to float up.  

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Blueberries (refrigerated) and cucumbers

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen 

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: None really


Looking forward to: Sleep!

30 weeks pregnant


 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 30 weeks on 17June, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a large butternut squash.  The skin is still wrinkly, but as fat accumulates, the baby will fill out.
               
Baby's Weight: 2.91 lbs
Baby's Length: 15.71 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am 183 pounds.  Total Weight Gain is now 26 pounds.

Maternity clothes?: Yes.  I have a couple of pre-pregnancy shirts that I wear, but beyond that everything is maternity.

Favorite maternity outfit: Didn’t really have one, but the white coverall and white pants was pretty cute.

Stretch marks?:  Yes, sigh.  Yes.

Sleep: Waking every 3.5 hours to go to the bathroom at night.

Best moment of the week: Attending graduation parties and having the most amazing dip I have ever had in life.

Not so great moment of the week:    After the party, my legs and feet were so swollen, I could push and see the imprint of my fingers

Symptoms:  Back pain, round ligament pain, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, cravings for water foods (watermelon, carrots, blueberries, cucumbers).

Miss Anything?:  Summer sangrias.  I usually kick off summer with a nice sangria at one of my favorite restaurants.

What I'm loving?: Our friends gifted us with a bouncer and bassinet for the baby

What I'm not loving?:  Deciphering if it’s my hormones that make my eyebrows raise at a comment or if the comment legitimately deserves the eyebrow raise and correction.

Movement: Pretty consistent big moves.  The baby still rests low so I feel it in my pelvic region a lot unless it wants to float up.  

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Cucumbers and carrots?

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen This week I think it’s a boy

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: My SIL has me generating a list because she wants to host a shower for S. and I.


Looking forward to: Date night.  I’m hoping S. and I can go someplace nice.

29 weeks pregnant-SORRY FOR THE DELAY

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 29 weeks on 10 June, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a large butternut squash.  The skin is still wrinkly, but as fat accumulates, the baby will fill out.
               
Baby's Weight: 2.54 lbs
Baby's Length: 15.20 in

Total weight gain/loss: Ugh!  I am 179 pounds.  I couldn’t even tell S. when he asked.  I pretended I didn’t know.  (Thank goodness he doesn’t follow this blog). Total Weight Gain is now 20+ pounds.

Maternity clothes?: Yes.  I have a couple of pre-pregnancy shirts that I wear, but beyond that everything is maternity.

Favorite maternity outfit: The pastel yellow maternity dress I wore from zulily.com on Sunday.  I received a lot of compliments on it and I felt very feminine in it.

Stretch marks?:  Yes, sigh.  Yes.

Sleep: Still working on it.

Best moment of the week: This week our son ‘graduated’ from fifth grade!  Can I tell you how absolutely proud I am of him?  You can check out all my feelings on this post here.  Yes, I cried.  Hormones did not contribute.  Just proud!

Not so great moment of the week:    Back pain and feet swelling have returned this week.  Combine that with a heatwave that has 100 degree heat indices and I’ve been trying to stay indoors.

Symptoms:  Back pain, round ligament pain, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, sweets cravings.

Miss Anything?:  Not waddling.

What I'm loving?: The thoughtfulness of my siblings and this pretty chill weather

What I'm not loving?:  Urine leaks.  I sneezed and peed all over myself in the car with S. beside me.  Not a great moment lol.

Movement: Lots, especially at night.  The baby is definitely his or her daddy’s child.  It will stretch and will move into a position that is sorely uncomfortable.  I’ll shift position, feel it float into a new spot, and then ostensibly float back.  This baby has personality for sure.  

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Sweets and cucumbers.  MAN, Do I want cucumbers?

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen Still think it’s a girl though

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: Lovely friends gave us a bouncer and an activity center.  I’ve been scouring Pinterest for breast pumping schedules, for make ahead freezer meals, and for décor ideas for a future nursery as soon as we clear up the space since my MIL is in the guest bedroom.

Looking forward to: Celebrating my son’s graduation.  Crack!  I have to go and order a cake for him today!

28 weeks pregnant update



DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 28 weeks on 3 June, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of an eggplant.  The baby is beginning to open its eyes and blink.
               
Baby's Weight: 2.22 lbs
Baby's Length: 14.80 in

Total weight gain/loss: Sigh.  I'm 179 pounds.  Plus 9 pounds in two weeks :(  Doctor says this is fine and it's all belly/belly from the looks of it.  I disagree.

Maternity clothes?: Yep.  Every day, all day.

Favorite maternity outfit: This week it was the outfit I wore to my doctor’s appointment.  A black long sleeve shirt with gray maternity pants and silver accessories.  It was comfortable, flexible, and looked cute.

Stretch marks?:  Yes, sigh.  Yes.

Sleep: I am still able to sleep pretty well as long as I have a pillow positioned properly.

Best moment of the week: Our surprise birthday party!  It was beautiful and my sisters hosted it.  I’d just posted about how I didn’t think anyone was interested in having anything and they did this!  I will share a post in a couple of days.

Not so great moment of the week:    My feet were huge by the time I got home from visiting NJ.  They didn’t hurt, but man they looked funny.

Braxton Hicks?: Yep!  And combined with back pain and round ligament pain, they hurt for about an hour on the way back from NJ.  Then, they went away.

Miss Anything?:  Not really.

What I'm loving?: The thoughtfulness of my siblings and this pretty chill weather

What I'm not loving?:  Urine leaks.  I sneezed and peed all over myself in the car with S. beside me.  Not a great moment lol.

Movement: Yes.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: I want ice cream a lot more now.  I try to have an ice cream sandwich at some point every day.

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen Still think it’s a girl though

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: We have baby onesies and baby stuff from the shower!!! We haven’t started on a nursery yet because we are either going to move our son into the larger bedroom in the basement or we are going to keep the baby with us for a while.


Looking forward to: Celebrating my son’s upcoming 5th grade transition.  

Second Trimester Favorites

Hi everyone!  I completely apologize for being behind on this post.  I know I promised it a couple of weeks ago, but I wanted to get input from others just in case I missed something.  So, because you reminded me in DMs and because I try to be transparent as I can be in these posts, here are my second trimester favorites.

1.  Preggie Pops. Oh my goodness! These were STILL required during second trimester and were a life saver!  I kept waiting for the “second trimester is awesome” energy that everyone speaks about (and I remembered from pregnancy number one), but it seemed to evade me for quite some time. I would still find myself getting nauseous especially if the weather was warm or if someone were brewing coffee around me. These little candies helped a LOT.




2.  Maternity Tanks from Target.  I popped quite a bit sooner than I did with pregnancy number one. By week 16, people were pretty much in the know. Suddenly, about the same time, my shirts became increasingly difficult to put on and remove. After one particularly hard battle with a church organization shirt that I love dearly, I begrudgingly admitted defeat. Target Cartwheel just so happened to have a 20% off maternity tanks on top of a clearance sale and I decided to see if I could find a couple of tanks to hold me over. I did and they were perfect! Comfortable, roomy, stretchy, and looked great with a cardigan. Woohoo!



3.  Maternity/Nursing Bras.  Oh my wow. I tried to avoid these. Don’t ask why. I just did. A coworker who’d recently given birth gave me several just to be nice and my goodness. I practically lived in them. The breasts didn’t hurt so much at the end of the day. I didn’t want to hit my husband when I hugged him in the evenings. And they were flattering.  The only thing I didn't like was that a great majority of them are thinner, so you could see your nips if you were wearing a thinner shirt.



4.  Baby Apps. While trying to conceive, my husband and I both downloaded the Glow app for conception. It kept up with fertility appointments, basal body temperatures, egg retrieval, egg transfer, etc. When we received a positive beta, I hesitated a bit before confirming the pregnancy and upgrading to Glow Nurture. I’m so glad I did update though. I am able to keep track of weight, appointments, symptoms, complaints, etc. It’s been very helpful.

Equally helpful has been Full Timer, which lets me count baby kicks and time Braxton Hicks contractions.  That came in handy a couple of times when I did too much and those Braxton Hicks actually had a bit of rhythm to them.


5.  Peacock Tumbler.  I love this thing. No, seriously.  I love it.  My niece gave it to me as a Mother's Day gift.  It comes with a straw and the cutest peacock design which is my thing because I LOVE peacocks.  Anyway, I fill this tumbler with water several times a day, drink my quota and then some, and keep coming back for more.  It actually motivates me subconsciously to stay hydrated. It's definitely coming with me to L&D on delivery day.


So there you have it.  These are my favorites for the second trimester.  Any definites on your list?  Anything you were surprised to see?




Baby shower surprise!

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

 In one of my previous posts, I’d shared how I was looking forward to seeing my family, but was disappointed because it didn’t look like we were going to have a shower for the baby. I reiterated that I wasn’t thinking about gifts, but thought it would be cool to celebrate this amazing blessing with family and I wondered if we would ever get a chance to celebrate our pregnancy in our #TTC world. Imagine my surprise when I popped into NJ with S. to visit my paternal family this weekend and found a beautiful surprise shower had been planned!





My awesome and amazing siblings were the planners. That’s three sisters and one brother. Their spouses, my in-loves, also helped as well as my bonus mother. I seriously had no idea. I had an inkling something was going on because Dad kept asking what time I was planning to come, but I was not expecting such a sweet surprise!

                     

Since we won’t know what Baby will be until delivery day, the family with a neutral pastel theme. Light yellows, greens, pinks, blues. It was beautiful.

  

They decided to all wear a beautiful palette of yellows and that just made everything come together so well. In addition to a beautiful job inside and outside with décor, the food was very yummy. My dad is a guru on the grill. He woke up early and grilled ribs and hamburgers. My bonus mother made an amazing rice and shrimp dish and a macaroni salad. My sister made shrimp kabobs. She also made chicken. We had tons of beverages and snacks. It was just family and it was amazing.

My beautiful sister T, was the game hostess. We had to guess the flavor of the baby food. Oh my yuckiness, lol! It’s hard to imagine how much babies love this stuff. This was evident by our three year old who wanted to try and then proceeded to demolish the sample off my spoon! She loved it LOL. My sister in love ended up guessing correctly in round one (apples and pears) and my brother (her husband) guessed correctly in round two. This makes a lot of sense because my niece is almost two. They are familiar with the flavors lol.

The men disappeared and the ladies ended up opening gifts lol. It was the first time some of my brother in loves got to spend time with my husband and they were having a ball. We allowed them their fun and opened onesies and diapers, wipes, shirts, gift cards, and so much more. It was all appreciated so very much!

We gathered everyone in the kitchen and cut the very yummy, very tasty vanilla shortcake with banana cream. It was so good. My sister was a bit annoyed because she’d ordered strawberry and banana and only received the banana. I told her it was so good that I didn’t care and would never have known had not she mentioned it. Seriously, guys, it was delicious.

After the cakes, gift opening and seconds (or thirds), we sat around chitchatting for another couple of hours and then it was time to go. I seriously can’t say enough about how beautiful and thoughtful everything was. It was one of the best trips to visit my family ever! I can’t thank them enough for loving me and for celebrating our family addition.

Here are some additional pictures for you!





25 weeks pregnant

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 25 weeks on 14 May, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Oops! I completely forgot to post this last week. Here's the update for 25 weeks. Our 26 week post will be added soon. Baby is now the size of an acorn squash. The baby is developing a firm grasp and may reach out and grab the umbilical cord. The baby is also able to stick out its tongue.

Baby's Weight: 1.46 lbs

Baby's Length: 13.62 in

Total weight gain/loss: I currently weigh 170.  I started this journey at 153.  I have gained 17 pounds overall.

Maternity clothes?: Yep. Every day, all day.

Favorite maternity outfit: My church outfit. A black and white tunic dress purchased from Zulily.com with pearl accessories and black flats. I was comfortable and cute and received compliments at church, so no complaints there.

Stretch marks?: Yes, sigh. Yes.

Sleep: Not really. I’ve been waking about 2AM and going downstairs to watch TV until 3 or 4, and then trying to return to bed then.

Best moment of the week: Clearing that flower bed. Oh my, it’s been an eyesore. I just haven’t had the energy to do anything about it. I finally gathered some on Saturday and spent close to four hours outside cutting, pruning, trimming, pulling, etc. It still isn’t done but looks a lot better than when I started.

Not so great moment of the week: The back pain after I finished working the flower bed. I was in PAIN. But, this too shall pass.

Braxton Hicks?: Yes. Not painful, this week, but they were there.

Miss Anything?: Not really. I wanted to discuss family vacations as we usually have everything locked on and paid for by now. S. is wary of doing anything because I am so very pregnant and will be limited in participating. So, we’re trying to figure out our plans.

What I'm loving?: Watching the baby move under my skin and seeing my children’s reaction to it.

What I'm not loving?:
Being so tired all the time.

Movement: Yes.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat. Heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Nope.

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen, but I think it’s a girl. That belly is all kinds of wide.

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On
Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy and very calm.

Preparations for baby: Not really





Looking forward to: A nap

Birth Plan Discussions?



Hi everyone. Hope all is well in your worlds today. I was sitting at my desk recounting a conversation I had with S. yesterday along with some recent reading I’d done. There was a blog post I read entitled “Giving Birth is not a Party”. I read it and could relate to the author’s frustration with the way some people take the experience of birth as a right to be present. I get it. It’s exciting. It’s new life for goodness sakes! BUT, it’s not for everyone. Most of you know how fortunate I was in my first pregnancy. I was a single mom doing it solo. My mother wouldn’t be in attendance at the birth and I was bummed about being there by myself. Then my sister squad came through after I called them and told them my water had broken. By the end of my 11 hours and 55 minutes of labor, there were six beautiful woman in that room welcoming the birth of my son. It was powerful. It was beautiful. It was soul stirring. It was something that will never be duplicated. Nor should it. This time, I want things different…and they already are.

I am married now to a man whom I love with all of me—even when he drives me bonkers lol. This is our first biological child together. We’ve been blessed to experience the joys of newborn raising together (our daughter) and the joys of raising a preschooler to soon-to-be middle schooler (our son-wow), but pregnancy and delivery have never been experienced together. I thought about how big our families are and how many people could easily say they were on their way and, quite frankly, I don’t want that. It seems to take away from things.  That’s what I told S.

I asked if he would have any objections to it being just the two of us in the delivery room. I know my husband has tons of brothers, a sister, sister in laws, and that together we have so many nieces, nephews, etc. I love spending time with them and I love the energy they bring to any event.  However, I don't think I want all that energy when we are laboring.  I would like it to be just he and I laboring together.  This is our one team, one flesh, one effort moment.  I don’t want  have to worry about people seeing my nether regions or talking when I want complete silence. I just want it to be he and I. At least, that’s what I think I want.

S. didn't seem to have a problem with this at all and joked that maybe we should let everyone know after the baby was born and at home.  I actually like the sound of that, but also know that I wouldn't mind a couple of friends or family members in the downtime where he has to go home.  My mother won't be down until several weeks later. I suspect I'll be there for a couple of nights minimum.  S. will be going back and forth with the babies and I wouldn't mind someone sitting with me for a little while--maybe.

I think most will be okay with any decision to wait until we are home since their travel distance is an hour minimum.  I'd prefer they wait until the baby is about a week old before coming over.  I want the family to have time to be home and enjoy meeting and loving the baby.

The only exception to the wait until we get home rule will have to be my babies.  I would like our son and daughter to meet the baby in the hospital.  I think it will be a nice time for them spend some time together, take pictures, and return home knowing we'll see them the next day.  This will be especially important for our oldest.  He is very protective of me.  I know he will be worried if he doesn't see me and will want to know that I am okay.

I was putting all of this off since we have a couple of months before things are solid, but then two of my fellow pregnant mothers delivered early.  My former colleague and my cousin.  The colleague went three months early.  The cousin went three weeks early.  My office has also recently started to ask when I plan to take maternity leave, so I suppose I have to start thinking about this stuff now.
Any thoughts?  What did you do? What are you doing? Who will be in L&D with you if you are doing a hospital birth? Who will be with you if it’s a home birth?  When are you starting maternity leave?

-K

Maternity Leave Discussions, Already?

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Hi everyone. Hope you are all doing well. A little while ago, my project lead came over to me to discuss work. At the conclusion of the conversation he asked if I’d given thought to when I would be starting maternity leave. I told him I’d thought about it, but because I’m only six months on and not due until August, I hadn’t planned on finalizing anything until June. He said that was fine, but hinted that I may want to make my plans official sooner. That got me thinking. Isn’t it too early to be planning maternity leave?

Apparently not. When I thought back on the birth of my first son, I remembered that I delivered my expected maternity plan in July. He wasn’t due until September. Granted, at the time I was doing a lot of business travel, so it was necessary to have everything thought out and arranged to ensure a smooth transition, but I just hadn’t thought about that with this one. I mean, I do minimum work travel. I’m at a desk most of the day. My activity level is limited to the walking I do through the bays in our office, and the pregnancy has been pretty uneventful. So, why do I need to think about maternity leave now? Well, mainly because things are very different.

Maternity leave with this company is unpaid. Ugh. I have been very blessed in my life. When I was a single mother, God saw fit for me to work at a company that gave you 100% salary paid maternity leave for six weeks. That was such a blessing to me and I almost missed out on it because I was just so sure the company didn’t have it. When I called HR and gave them the news, they sent a congratulations packet with all of these really neat forms and discounts. Best company ever. Unfortunately, they lost the next contract in recompete and I had to move with the contract to a new company.

The company I am with now only offers FMLA (which is up to 12 weeks unpaid) and/or use of personal time off (vacation) hours. Because I don’t have that much leave, I’m planning on going in the hole and paying that leave back after my return, which doesn’t bother me because I would zero out theoretically in three months—just in time for the holidays. I usually only take the day before Thanksgiving to cook and surf on the Thanksgiving holiday provided. Christmas is the same way.

There is STD as an option, but I got the impression from other recent maternity moms and from
conversations with the company that they would prefer this not be an option. It’s not really that appealing of an option to take. It’s 50% of my weekly salary up to $1500, but is still taxed accordingly. I can’t start it until after the baby is born and must receive approval for it from the
company then. So, if the baby is born on or around 26 Aug, then I can’t apply for STD until 26 August and have to wait for approval. The company is allowed 14 business days to approve or disapprove. In the mean time, I would have no salary coming in minus leave. That more than likely won't work, so COA work seems to be my go-to right now.

My customer is relocating to a new facility in June. They probably won’t be settled in with working phones and a true semblance of communication until mid-June. There is also a serious reorganization going on within that same customer’s environment. That means the month of June will be super crazy and any paperwork (like my maternity leave plan) could theoretically be lost or forgotten. So, it appears it is a better idea to get started sooner than later.

So, I get it. I do. I’ve scoured the Internet looking for sample maternity letter templates and researching the benefits afforded by the FMLA. I finally started drafting my own letter and I think it’s almost ready. I want to get S.’s opinion of it before I release it to my boss, our team lead, and the other appropriate personnel.

Right now, I’m planning to do 4 weeks of PTO with buy back option for any negative balances, 1 week of teleworking, and then returning to the office at the start of week 6. The timing is similar to what I did with my first pregnancy, so I assume it can work. The adjustment in children pick up and timeline will be interesting though. We know H. will be starting preschool a bit before I return to work and little S. will be starting middle school. So, it’s going to be an interesting time in our homestead for sure.

Times like this, it would be nice to have the maternity coverage of other countries, but I certainly don’t see that happening anytime soon. So, what did you do? What are you doing? Feel free to share.

Talk to you soon.

-K

24 weeks pregnant

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 24 weeks on 7 May, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of an ear of corn.  The nostrils are opening now for “practice breathing”.  The baby will go through the same motions of real breathing, but will inhale amniotic fluid instead of air.

Baby's Weight: 1.32 lbs

Baby's Length: 11.81 in


Total weight gain/loss: I haven’t weighed myself this week.

Maternity clothes?: Yep. Every day, all day.

Stretch marks?: Yes

Sleep?: It varies. I finally found a right combination of pillows and arrangement that make sleep possible.

Best moment of the week: Celebrations. S. and I went to celebrate the retirement of a mutual family friend from the USAF. A wonderful time and lots of yummy food and great fellowship! Then the Pre-Mother’s Day celebration. My husband and son came home with beautiful bouquets of roses for my mother-in-love and I. Our son also had a small potted plant for me. We then enjoyed a meal at home that I didn’t have to prepare. It was a great evening and I was very thankful.

Not so great moment of the week: Trying 3s. The period of time where your feisty and independent three year old preschooler thinks rules don’t apply to her and your job is to remind her that they absolutely do.

Braxton Hicks?: Not so painful this week, but they are definitely there.

Miss Anything?: Not peeing my underwear.

What I'm loving?: Feeling this baby kick at night.

What I'm not loving?: My nausea seems to be returning, along with some cramping.

Movement: Yes. It tends to stay in the lower portion of my womb.  Occasionally, I'll get a kick in the ab area too.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Yes, but I don’t know what it is.

Food cravings: Veggies. I crushed a ziplock bag of celery like it was a delicacy.

Food aversion: Chicken, blech!

Have you started to show yet: Yes. I think we will retire this one soon too.

Gender prediction: #teamgreen, but I think it’s a girl. That belly is all kinds of wide

Labor Signs: No!

Belly Button in or out?: Still in, but stretched

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Mixed bag.

Preparations for baby: 1. Contacted the insurance company to confirm free breast pump and what I need to do to receive it. 2. Started working on my maternity leave plan and prep coworkers for a temporary shift of lead roles Aug-Oct.

Looking forward to:
Mother’s Day (which is the day I turned 25 weeks)

We're switching birth locations!!!

DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

Hello everyone!  We hope everyone is doing well.  You may remember some time ago, I mentioned that S. and I discussed switching our birth locations.  We have thought about it for a while now and have decided it is definitely the right decision for us and our little one.

S. and I live about three minutes from a fairly new hospital (<5 years old) and about 15 minutes from the one that delivered my son ten years ago.  The newer hospital was created to accomodate the medical needs of the people in our rapidly growing city.  I was really excited about that when we moved into our home because I figured one day, just maybe, S. and I would get to use its Labor and Delivery.

Well, since that time, several colleagues, friends, and associates have delivered their children there. In query, all have had pretty pleasant things to say.  BUT there seemed to be a series of consistent complaints or quirks across the board from the same.  The newere hospital has only 10 Labor and Delivery rooms.  If there is a busy night of babies being born, the hospital staff encourages its L&D patients to leave the hospital as soon as medically possible because they need the bed.  In the case of one colleague, she was discharged right at 24 hours post-delivery despite the fact that she had a C-section.  (I wasn't even aware that was medically advisable).  The nurse explained that she was medically sound and the hospital needed the bed for another laboring patient.  That kind of worked for her, but added to a harrowing experience because her baby had to be rushed to NICU.  The newer hospital doesn't have a NICU; the hospital 15 minutes away from us does.  So, her baby was immedieatly transferred by ambulance to the next hospital with her husband and she was by herself waiting to recover before being discharged and hoping to receive news about her child. I couldn't imagine!

The newer hospital also doesn't have a nursery which means baby sleeps in the room with mom and dad 24 /7. That's not necessarily a bad thing because it does encourage bonding.  In the hospital fifteen minutes away, I remembered keeping my son with me most of the time with the exception of taking a shower and three to four hours the night before discharge because I knew I'd need the rest.  I liked having the option.  In the case of another colleague who'd been in labor about 32 hours, she didn't really have an opportunity to rest because baby was with her at all times and she came out more tired than she went in.  Again, both colleagues spoke highly of the staff and the experience, but wished for nursery and not feeling rushed to leave even though their insurances actually covered additional in-patient time.

The newer hospital does have an Intermediate level NICU, but I still feel a bit uncomfortable with the option of no nursery especially if S. won't be staying the night in order to watch the kids.

So, with all of that in mind and a lot of discussion,  S. and I have decided that I will be delivering at the hospital which delivered my son (15 minute away).  The hospital has a stellar reputation, a level 1 trauma and NICU bay, a completely renovated labor and delivery department with private suite like rooms, a nursery, and are great about baby care.  S. joked that I only get one false alarm.  (Yeah, I gave him the look lol, but I didn't have false alarms with the first, so hopefully none with this one either).

So there we stand.  When my water breaks and/or when the consistent contractions come, we'll book down the Interstate (only 2 exits) and will give birth there.  Super excited!

Yay!  Anyone else making birthing location decisions?