I've met my temp!

Hello everyone.  So, I know you aren't really supposed to be excited about meeting the person who will be taking your place while you are absent from work, but I was super excited when mine showed up today.  It was her first day of work and she is to begin shadowing me in preparation for my start to maternity leave.

This was great for a number of reasons.  Number one means time is getting close!  I currently have 5 more weeks and I'm excited about that.  Number two is there is a great chance there will be additional opportunity for placement if all goes well.  Considering we've been short handed for a while, I think that's awesome.  Finally, hope.  Lol, it means there is light at the end of the tunnel.  I may actually be starting maternity leave soon.  I can hardly wait.

So, we have a lot of work to do.  I've already introduced her to the team and relevant customers and stakeholders.  Now comes the work of meetings and my day to day stuff.  By the time I leave, she'll be good to go and I won't have any issues about it at all.

Have any of you started prepping for maternity leave?  Have you written your out of office statement yet?  Feel free to share.

K

Birthday celebrations

Hello everyone.

I suppose I should have written quite some time ago, but I'm noticing less readers and more fatigue. It's kind of evening out.  But that's okay.  We're getting close!  This past weekend was my birthday! Woohoo!  It was nice to celebrate another year of life, but I have to tell you last week was a doozy.

We're currently prepping for a major meeting at my job.  It's a pretty big deal with some pretty big VIPs coming in.  As such, we are having meetings for the meetings.  Last week, I was in more meetings than I was out of.  Combine that with a massive heat wave with oppressive humidity and I was more than a little irritated.  Heat makes me not too happy these days.


When I was finally finished with the work of the day, all I wanted to do was go home and take a shower or a cold bath.  I'd just picked up our daughter when I received a text from S. asking me to meet him for a date night.  Because traffic was already so yucky, we ended up meeting at the gym S. attends and dropping our little one for a date night.

We went out to dinner and enjoyed a yummy meal of seafood, salad, garlic cheddar biscuits, and appetizers.  It was nice just getting out and spending some time with each other talking about the events of the week, upcoming childcare plans, etc.  After a lovely dinner, we went up the street to catch a movie.  Both S. and I are superhero fans, so catching up with the new Spider-man movie made sense.

I liked the movie though it was a bit long.  I think these days the movies tend to run longer just to add fluff.  The movie itself was pretty good.  I just could have done without some of the longer sequences.  Movie over, S. and I finally hopped in the car to pick up our daughter.  When we got to the house, it was after midnight and we were surprised to see our mother in love there!  She was supposed to have already left to visit her sister.  My father in love was running behind, so she was waiting for him.  About five minutes after we pulled up, so did he.  He and my husband loaded the car.  He came in and suddenly disappeared.

Three minutes later, he walked into the kitchen with a huge birthday cake!  How thoughtful!  The family sang happy birthday and then my in loves left to start their trip.  I went upstairs to the bedroom and found a gorgeous bouquet of deep purple roses, a cute new purse, a card that housed tickets to a play I've been secretly hoping to see, and a love note.  Awww!  I wasn't expecting that at all.  I felt very special!

I was also very tired.  S. and I called it an evening and I slept ALL DAY on Saturday!  Sunday, we woke early for early service, praise and worship, and Sunday School.  Then, I took our son (who'd returned from a summer visit to his paternal family's home) to meet my mother for a week with her.

When I got home, I was super exhausted but managed to make it in time to celebrate a dear gf and the arrival of her baby girl.  It was a nice time and nice event and I made sure to catch a nap afterwards!

Overall, it was a wonderful birthday and I wouldn't change it for anything.

How about you?  How was your weekend?

K

Scary moments

Hi everyone.  Sorry, I've been offline lately.  Things were pretty quiet.  So much so that I didn't have much to write about.  That changed this morning.  I had an appointment scheduled for today, a regular check up to see how Baby is doing.  I noticed when I woke this morning to leave for the appointment and drop off our daughter at daycare that I hadn't felt the baby move as often as I usually do.  In fact, minus one tiny movement this morning, I hadn't felt baby move since about 10PM.  I was nervous.

My appointment wasn't until 1030 and there was a full house this morning.  By the time I got in the exam room, I'd counted one movement in over an hour.  Baby usually gives me 3-5 in the same time duration.  It's pretty active especially around times I usually feed (breakfast, snack, lunch).  I mentioned to the nurse that I hadn't felt the baby and that it was probably sleeping, but I was a bit concerned.  She took note and promised to share with the doctor.

The doctor came in and listened to baby's heartbeat and it was a normal 141, as it had been for the past few appointments.  The doctor asked about the note about the movement and noted that the baby hadn't kicked the doppler like it usually does.  She asked when was the last time I felt a movement and I informed her I felt a tiny one when I woke that morning, several hours earlier.

She immediately scheduled a sonogram for me in house.  She said with the heartbeat she wasn't too concerned, but was concerned enough that she wanted to check it out.  Suddenly I got really nervous and started almost willing baby to move.  Nothing.  The sonogram list was also heavy so I'm sitting there updating my IG and texting my husband asking for prayers because by now it was pushing 1140 and I'd felt nothing.  I prayed myself and maybe five minutes later, I felt the baby start hiccuping.  I was so relieved just to feel hiccups that I found myself teary eyed.

Finally, it was my turn in the sonogram room and the tech explained what she was looking for--baby movement, good amount of amniotic fluid, baby practicing breathing, proof that it is not in distress. When the baby came on the screen, the tech smiled and said she could see the baby practicing breathing just fine.  She continued checking and realized baby was in fact resting, but had woken.  He or she was sucking its thumb and just resting.

I felt so much better.  The baby was fine.  The relief I feel at this moment is amazing.

After the sonographer dismissed me, I was directed to rest up for the rest of the day, so I'm in my bed working from home with feet up.  Anything for baby.

I thought I would share with you all.  Thank you for the prayers.

-WinterMommy

32 weeks pregnant

 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 32 weeks on 1July, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a Napa cabbage.  Because taste buds are developed, the baby may acquire a preference for the foods you eat, which it samples when she swallows amniotic fluid.
               
Baby's Weight: 3.75 lbs
Baby's Length: 16.69 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am 182 pounds.  I actually lost two pounds, which is probably a combination of the cold I caught and the fruits I've been consuming without delay.

Maternity clothes?: Still wearing them everyday though I have also worn a couple of pre-pregnancy maxi dresses with success.

Favorite maternity outfit: The maxi dress I wore for one of the church deacon's surprise birthday party.  I wore the same for my surprise baby shower and enjoyed having move to move around.

Stretch marks?:  Yes, sigh.  Yes.

Sleep: Minimum.  I caught our daughter's cold and am very stuffy.  Combine that with summer heat and I'm not getting much rest at all.

Best moment of the week: Seeing the look of surprise on the church deacon's face when he entered his party.  He's such a genuine spirit and it was so wonderful to see everyone honoring him.

Not so great moment of the week:  There were a couple.  The first was after the party I had major back pains and contractions for quite some time.  That was painful.  The other was our son is visiting his grandparents and paternal family in NC.  I miss him but know he is having a great time there.

Symptoms:  Back pain, BH contractions, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, cravings for water foods (watermelon, carrots, blueberries, cucumbers).

Miss Anything?: Not being so irritable and tired.  Truthfully pregnancy was a bit easier when I was a single mommy because I didn't get on anyone's nerve nor anyone on mine because I was in an apartment by myself most days.

What I'm loving?: It's my birthday month!

What I'm not loving?:  Pregnancy hormones.

Movement: Pretty consistent big moves.  As I write this, baby has been moving quite well.  I believe it may have to do with the blueberries and strawberries I ate earlier.

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Blueberries

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen Okay, okay, I think it's a girl...maybe

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: Went to the doctor for our anatomy scan and everything went well.  The baby is actually measuring 4 pounds right now and has rolls, which is too cute.  I've never had a baby with chunka rolls.

Looking forward to: Feeling more like myself and our son returning home.

Social media etiquette

Hello everyone!

So, I've posted about this before.  Well, I've shared it on Instagram.  You all know how I feel about spilling the beans before family right? Well, it happened again and this time, I just HAD to share about it.

Literally, the day before yesterday, I saw yet another post on one of the pregnancy boards I follow of a tiny graphic reminding people not to share parent’s baby announcement news before the parents could do so themselves. I looked at it and thought that no one would really be that crass, but I was wrong. 

Last night, I logged on to FB to see that the parents, sister, and friend of one of my associates had just posted the news that the associate had given birth. They gave name and time of birth. I looked on her page and saw no mention from her at all. I suddenly felt annoyed for her.  I am not there so I don’t know the situation. Maybe she asked them to post. Maybe she gave them permission. But the only thing I could think was this beautiful mom and dad had just given birth to their first child and were basking in the glow of that child while simultaneously trying to recuperate and a great and personal moment was taken from them.

I would be furious. S. and I have tried to conceive this child for 4.5 years. Calendars, positions, blood work, needles, hormones, surgeries, retrievals, transfers, lab work, prayers. We did it all trying to get to this moment. I would be so hurt if I wasn’t even allowed the opportunity to share the moment with the world in a way and time I chose. S. probably won’t care, but I would love to have a mini collage. One of the new baby, one of each of the kids holding the baby, and then one of the entire family. Or not even. Just one of the baby. If my mother or sisters in love posted before I was ready, I’d be more than hurt. I’d be livid.

I wondered if this was just an isolated case. Sadly, it isn’t. Google it. You’ll see tons of posts where parents were hurt, angry, furious, heartbroken that someone had overshared. I would hate that. A while ago, I posted that S. and I were discussing not letting anyone know the baby was here until after we were back home. He has the large family. I have a pretty good size of extended family, several of whom are clamoring to see the newest blessing.

That’s just more than I want right now. I know people will be upset but I’d rather have the peace of mind of knowing that should I want to share, I can do so…on my own time. So, after deep discussion, S. and I have decided that we will keep the news of our little one's arrival private until we get home.  Because I know that my husband can be emotional (it's so amazing to see him tear up) and may change his mind about sharing, this following text message would be sent to our parents only. Siblings will be told later.

Good morning/afternoon/evening! We just wanted to let you know that Baby XXX has made his/her arrival at _______am/pm. Mom and baby are doing____________________. Right now, we are only telling immediate family so PLEASE do NOT post on ANY social media or share this text about the baby until we are ready to do so ourselves. It took us quite a bit of time to get to this moment and we would like to bask in it privately for a while. Also, Mom’s a little tired right now, so please give her a few hours before calling or making plans to visit.

We think this will work.  How about you?  Any one doing a delayed announcement for fear of family spilling the beans?



31 weeks pregnant


 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 30 weeks on 17June, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a large butternut squash.  The skin is still wrinkly, but as fat accumulates, the baby will fill out.
               
Baby's Weight: 3.31 lbs
Baby's Length: 16.180 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am still 183 pounds.  Total Weight Gain is now 26 pounds.

Maternity clothes?: Every single day.  Every single outfit.

Stretch marks?:  Yep.  Tons of them.

Sleep: Not very well at all.  I usually wake up at midnight and stay awake until 3 because I cannot get comfortable at all.

Best moment of the week: Leaving work on Friday.  I was more than ready for a three day weekend.

Not so great moment of the week:    My hormones were all over the place last week.  I preferred being left alone to communicating.

Symptoms:  Back pain, round ligament pain, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, cravings for water foods (watermelon, carrots, blueberries, cucumbers).

Miss Anything?:  Walking without waddling.

What I'm loving?: Getting closer to our due date.

What I'm not loving?:  S.'s comments about my weight.  He has no idea how close he is to my wrath.

Movement: Pretty consistent big moves.  The baby still rests low so I feel it in my pelvic region a lot unless it wants to float up.  

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Blueberries (refrigerated) and cucumbers

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen 

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: None really


Looking forward to: Sleep!

30 weeks pregnant


 DISCLAIMER: This post contains information about our pregnancy. Because I know all too well how these kinds of posts may affect my fellow #ttcsisters and #ttcbrothers, I include this disclaimer to forewarn you. I understand how much these posts can sting and promise to continue to add the disclaimer on any post that may be related to this pregnancy (assuming viability) so that you may have the option to bow out of reading. I understand.

(Disclaimer 2: I actually turned 30 weeks on 17June, but didn’t want to miss anything in the update, so I have decided my update posts will be the following Monday of the week).

Our baby is now the size of a large butternut squash.  The skin is still wrinkly, but as fat accumulates, the baby will fill out.
               
Baby's Weight: 2.91 lbs
Baby's Length: 15.71 in

Total weight gain/loss: I am 183 pounds.  Total Weight Gain is now 26 pounds.

Maternity clothes?: Yes.  I have a couple of pre-pregnancy shirts that I wear, but beyond that everything is maternity.

Favorite maternity outfit: Didn’t really have one, but the white coverall and white pants was pretty cute.

Stretch marks?:  Yes, sigh.  Yes.

Sleep: Waking every 3.5 hours to go to the bathroom at night.

Best moment of the week: Attending graduation parties and having the most amazing dip I have ever had in life.

Not so great moment of the week:    After the party, my legs and feet were so swollen, I could push and see the imprint of my fingers

Symptoms:  Back pain, round ligament pain, feet swelling, inability to get comfortable at night, cravings for water foods (watermelon, carrots, blueberries, cucumbers).

Miss Anything?:  Summer sangrias.  I usually kick off summer with a nice sangria at one of my favorite restaurants.

What I'm loving?: Our friends gifted us with a bouncer and bassinet for the baby

What I'm not loving?:  Deciphering if it’s my hormones that make my eyebrows raise at a comment or if the comment legitimately deserves the eyebrow raise and correction.

Movement: Pretty consistent big moves.  The baby still rests low so I feel it in my pelvic region a lot unless it wants to float up.  

Anything make you queasy or sick: Heat.  Too much heat makes me sick.

Food cravings: Cucumbers and carrots?

Food aversion:  Chicken, blech!

Gender prediction: #teamgreen This week I think it’s a boy

Belly Button in or out?: Stretched in

Wedding ring on or off?: On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Pretty happy

Preparations for baby: My SIL has me generating a list because she wants to host a shower for S. and I.


Looking forward to: Date night.  I’m hoping S. and I can go someplace nice.